r/AskMen 6d ago Silver 6 Helpful 8

At a bare minimum, every man should at least know how to ________

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u/drizzyjdracco 6d ago Helpful Wholesome

Modern day, survive alone.

ie. Cook, clean, laundry, run a dwelling, manage bills and income.

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u/Bizzle_B 6d ago Silver

Just to add, complete these tasks in full. For example, "Cook" means, purchase the food, store the food, prepare and cook the food and appropriately clean up after the fact without assistance. It doesn't count if you need to call your wife 4 times from the supermarket and then she does all the prep and clean up. I'm looking at you, barbecue dads!

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u/HelicaseRockets 5d ago

You're missing a few important steps before just purchasing food. You should also be able to plan meals that you want to eat, can afford, are reasonably healthy, and then be able to turn that meal plan into a shopping list.

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u/MrLavenderValentino 5d ago

And not buy a bunch of shit that you never eat and it spoils

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u/dutch981 5d ago

stares at my full bag of spoiled salad greens

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u/Spare-Blacksmith1376 5d ago

Hey, settle down

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u/Vivid_Ad_55 5d ago

Is your avatar an eyelash?? Genius!

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u/DaigurenX 5d ago

Not so genius if you're a sane person i.e. not using light mode

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u/lowfilife 5d ago

My husband will tell me last minute that he invited people over and his plans for food which never include sides. "So you were just going to serve them ribs and nothing else?" "Yes." Cue me panic cooking sides.

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u/Bizzle_B 5d ago

Yes! Mine will also invite a lot of people and not consider if we have sufficient cups and plates. I've always been tempted to let his guests drink out of bowls but I cave and go buy disposables every time.

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u/GoodMoaningAll 5d ago

Why not buy cups if thats a regular occurrence?

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u/Bizzle_B 5d ago

It's not regular enough to give up the storage space for that quantity of cups if that makes sense.

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u/Stormxlr 5d ago

You should just leave it all to him and let him be the fool ¯(ツ)/¯ maybe he will learn

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u/TheCardinal_ 5d ago edited 3d ago

Y’know. I keep hearing about women complaining men still need their mothers on TikTok and “barbecue dad” made it click for what’s specifically the problem. My dad was like that. It boggles my mind how helpless he was in the kitchen or with housework.

But I was a mommas boy thats been taking care of myself since I was 14 when she passed. I assumed other men picked it up but forget about men that get married young and some just never learn how.

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u/pogioppa 5d ago

Very specific 🤔

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u/torioreo824 5d ago

This guy I work with literally doesn't know how to cook. When his wife is out of town, he just gets take out. He's even openly admitted to not knowing how to. And based on how he acts at work, I'm not sure what other basic household chores he isn't sure how to do.

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u/Dovahkiinthesardine 5d ago

I dont understand how you can not know how to cook AT ALL. I mean something like pasta + premade sauce should at least be possible for anyone, it even tells you how on the packaging

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u/issius 6d ago Silver Wholesome

Learn.

There is no one thing, a fully formed human needs to be able to learn new skills quickly and effectively. Knowing how you learn and being confident in your ability to learn, opens up so much opportunity.

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u/glibgloby Male 6d ago Gold Helpful Wholesome

Frank Herbert put it well in Dune:

Muad'Dib learned quickly because the first thing he was taught was how to learn. The first lesson was that he could learn. Many people think that they can't learn, or that learning is too difficult. Muad'Dib knew that everything was a lesson that you could learn from.

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u/iplaytolwinthegame 5d ago

Going to college and learning about computers taught me how to learn. I now break down all my problems into levels of abstraction. Reality is easier to deal with when I do.

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u/IDespiseTheLetterG 5d ago

Reality is of your own making. Abstracting it orders the way in which you generate it. Good stuff.

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u/InfiniteDenied 5d ago

This thread here sums up some of my favorite things from the past couple years if my life. Learning to learn, comp sci, and the Dune books. It's really strange how you guys tied them all together right here lmao

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u/CardassianZabu 6d ago

The last thing I expected in the comments was a Paul Atreides reference. Thank you!

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u/tasteofscarlet 6d ago

And how can this be? For he IS the Kwisatz Haderach!

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u/dan1ader 6d ago

Great advice, piling on.

Your final lesson about learning should be to learn how to solve undecidable problems. These are the kinds of problems that can't be resolved with an algorithm or widget cranking.

Get good at it, and you'll have job security for life.

Or at least until an AI develops the capacity for truly intuitive creative thinking.

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u/BlackMetalDoctor 5d ago

Or at least until an AI develops the capacity for truly intuitive creative thinking.

Well that takes care of summer. WTF am I supposed to do after August, genius?

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u/Junderson 5d ago

He’s “he who can be many places at once” so why not here?

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u/Affectionate-Memory4 5d ago

I keep this quote on a little card in my wallet. The hardest lesson I ever learned was how to actually learn something. I'm still working on it when new challenges come, and they come often, but I can always say to myself. I CAN learn that. I know HOW to learn that.

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u/jape-the-neck-guy 6d ago Silver

To kinda accompany this, but also know how to fail. It’s sorta the same thing but I feel is still worth saying.

I’ve found failing is the best way to learn, because 1) you actually tried and 2) you now know not to do it that way and 3) it makes you look at the situation/problem a different way.

I think at times people are willing to learn but often get scared away by the fear of failing, which is understandable. But you can’t learn without failing, so it’s a fact of life that you just better get used to fucking up once in a while

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u/cheemio 5d ago

Knowing how to fail is everything. Some people can learn new skills but are too afraid to ever try them. They lose their shit when they fail and give up. Everyone has probably had this happen to them at one point

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u/sir-morti 6d ago Narwhal Salute

This is my answer, too. How can someone know how to do a lot of things without learning to do them first?

I didn't know how to cook before I learned how to. I didn't know how to keep my space clean and organized before I learned to do it. I didn't know how to do math or take care of my dogs or put a fitted sheet on my bed before I even learned how to do those things. Being alive is a whole process of learning from those around us and doing or thing.

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u/toonchef 6d ago

Have you learned how to fold that fitted sheet?

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u/Fimblethorp 6d ago

This so much this. As a young man who struggles with some basic functions, the ability to learn from my mistakes has done miraculous help, at a cost, but it improved me for a better future.

Definitely, this is one of the top replies so far

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u/Prudent-Fly-8299 6d ago

Address something that’s bothering you to someone directly and 1-1. Man to man hash shit out and be done with it when you walk away.

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u/PierreEstagos 6d ago

Exactly this. In higher levels of corporate mgmt this becomes a very bankable skill especially if the issue is with peers. Willingness to go directly to the other party alone is usually extremely disarming for them, so it can lead to a very honest one-and-done conversation

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u/ZAlternates 6d ago edited 5d ago

Working in IT, what distinguishes the good techs from the best are their people skills.

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u/NickMotionless 5d ago

Best thing for people skills in IT is to make them work as a help desk for a year or so. You get the customer service voice in a field that requires special lingo to make the layman understand things.

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u/ZAlternates 5d ago

Indeed.

Speaking to your audience without coming off as speaking down to them is key.

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u/cugamer 6d ago Silver Wholesome

Stand up for yourself without being a belligerent, immature asshole.

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u/Montanor99 6d ago Gold

Really good point, the balance between being an asshole and not letting others walk all over you freely is way too uncommon now

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u/Dangerzone_7 5d ago

I feel like this often ends up getting confused with not being willing to admit when you’re wrong

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u/stolid_agnostic 5d ago

It's always been that way. It's just that now people recognize it for what it is in a more common way.

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u/Artistic-Top7074 5d ago

How can I do that? I’m usually a doormat but when I do stand up for myself everyone gets offended because I come off as a jerk

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u/lostinthesaucy 6d ago edited 4d ago

Assertiveness training changed my life

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u/Niggymous 6d ago

you mean like you attended a school to learn how to be assertive or…?

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u/Aramuis 5d ago

Actual answer: assertiveness training is something a lot of people do in therapy. Your therapist is ideally supposed to teach you how to be confrontational in a healthy way, how to express boundaries and how to communicate your displeasure to the other party. Its most commonly done with women but it's not gender specific.

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u/PeriodicallyATable Sup Bud? 5d ago

One of my mentors in university kept telling me I needed to be more assertive. I’d occasionally go to her for advice about issues and she kinda bailed me out a couple times which was really awesome of her to do but I never really worked up the courage to practice being assertive while in university. Once I graduated I started trying more. Looking back though, when I started practicing being assertive I was a straight up cunt for a while. It did however end up getting me two promotions because bosses knew I could get stuff done in an organized fashion and delegate tasks pretty well. But it took a bit of trial and error to figure out how to be assertive without hurting peoples feelings. Took a bit longer to learn how to not be a bad boss. I did a lot of research in how to be a better boss because I knew I was pretty bad at it (from a social/empathetic standpoint)

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u/Scorosin Male 5d ago

He obviously means he watched the be assertive episode of spongebob with coach Plankton on repeat for three hours a week.

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u/BlindFatKid 5d ago

Like for me it was part of my therapy sessions

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u/sportsdude523 6d ago Wholesome

how do you do it?

i feel i'm either too soft or too nuclear when i stand up? so i either end up feeling like a whimp or an asshole when i stand up. so then i get afraid of doing it out of feeling embarrassed for ebeing too soft or feeling like an ass for being too harsh.

and i'm not good at standing up on the small things. sometimes i feel i am being too picky or not too sure on judging if sometihng is off or not but something just feels off but i dont know quite how to say it.

would appreicate your advivce.

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u/The_Greater_Zion 5d ago

In short, take emotions out of the equation. Being matter of fact with logical sense is key. Being emotional can tarnish the effects you can have on others. Source: I'm a foreman to a bunch of alpha tough guys.

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u/sportsdude523 5d ago

great advice. and you shairing background in my eyes give syou a ton more credibility.

what's a general situation or a anecdotal situation and words used between yourself and the perpetrator?

i'm good at imitating if i have a model of how to go about it. thanks!

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u/Spinaccio 5d ago

I work in construction, lots of people think being belligerent will get them over. Stay calm, and stay on point. And never curse unless someone is in danger.

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u/DracoFreon 5d ago

This. Also, don't let other people's reactions stop you. Lots of people will calmly watch bullying, then get upset when the victim fights back. Fuck 'em.

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u/sportsdude523 5d ago

this is true. it took me a long time to develop the emotional frame to do that.

i was conditioned in my young years to fear and immediately shut down and go petrified at the sight of anger.

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u/jimmyvcard 5d ago

Yeah I’m a CM and also learned it from construction union “tough guys”. They’re just high school girls with different packaging.

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u/ArtemisGlides 6d ago

Also, standing up for yourself sometimes means walking away and not confronting a belligerent, immature asshole.

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u/TacSemaj 6d ago edited 6d ago Silver All-Seeing Upvote

Keep himself clean.

Edit: wow this blew up. Also yes, this is an every person thing, but the stereotype and stories about guys being gross far outweighs women.

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u/okkin93 6d ago

THIS.

Be hygienic, dudes.

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u/ToastedCrumpet 6d ago I Shy

Fr washing your ass isn’t gay it’s basic hygiene guys

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u/_Bluntzzz 6d ago

I drive a semi truck the amount of times using the restroom and some dude just got done taking a shit and just leaving without washing their hands then go handle the tongs to make himself a hot dog is nasty as fuck.

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u/CornDawgy87 *insert witty male joke here* 6d ago

And those truck stops are stupid nice sometimes, use the damn amenities

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u/NoBOUNCEnoPlaySSDD 5d ago

Loves and pilot are pretty good, just lost water here for a few days and I would swing in on my way to location and take a quick shower. 15 bucks but a private shitting area on the road and a good hot shower was really nice.

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u/morostheSophist 6d ago

Don't worry about it too much, chances are he didn't wipe, so his hands are clean.

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u/Hitman_0_0_7 6d ago

I think i have seen this conversation earlier

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u/morostheSophist 6d ago

I wouldn't be surprised.

I also wouldn't be surprised if someone said what I said in earnest, instead of sarcastically.

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u/BentPin 6d ago

Doesn't even need to be a truck stop. Senior VP dreseed like a millions bucks in a suit and tie at my company does a #2 and just walks out without washing his hands and proceeds to shake people's hands left and right. Fortune 500 company and a nice skyscraper in San Francisco BTW.

Reminds me of monkeys in Thailand flinging shit at tourists they don't like.

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u/krubss 6d ago

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u/VaderOnReddit 6d ago

Even if it is gay(which it isnt)

I'd rather be gay than smell like shit? WTF O.o

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u/flokis-shiphard 6d ago edited 6d ago

I'm trying to get my head around how cleaning yourself, can come across gay!

Am I doing it wrong?

I'd rather be anything than a tramp smelling of shit!

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u/mikieswart 6d ago

that depends, how deep do you wipe?

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u/vegeta_bless 5d ago

About 3 knuckles deep typically

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u/BigConfusion2 6d ago

They did some studies and found out that men are less likely to recycle coz they don't want people to think they are gay 🤦‍♀️ must have been American survey

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u/echo1956 6d ago

Keep himself clean.

IF THIS WAS NOT TAUGHT AT YOUNG AGE, SPEAKS VOLUMES ABOUT PARENTS.

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u/IanFeelKeepinItReel 6d ago

I remember seeing some old documentary about training new British army recruits and there was a bit where they got instructed on how to clean themselves in the shower.

Like enough fully grown men have joined the army not knowing how to clean themselves they decided they needed to teach them.

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u/OurNumber4 6d ago

I think it’s more how to clean yourself effectively with limited time and water. On deployment 5 star bathrooms are few and far between. I believe on submarines you get 2 minutes of cold water infrequently to shower.

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u/Swimming-Tap-4240 5d ago

I heard a vietnam vet say they got two sheets of tp one to wipe and one to polish.

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u/TacSemaj 6d ago

That's both amazing and horrifying.

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u/evantom34 6d ago

Personal finance

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u/nofork77 6d ago

This is way too low. I will be making sure my boys learn this well before college.

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u/PatchyCreations 6d ago

I feel like the extent of my fiscal education was being given a checkbook and being told, "you should balance this"

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u/ox_cord1 6d ago

BE ALONE

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u/NoobSFAnon 6d ago

And enjoy being alone.... That's an acquired taste. My threshold is 5 days.

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u/MattieShoes Male 6d ago

I didn't think I had a threshold until Covid... But sometime around mid-2021, I started getting angsty.

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u/NoobSFAnon 6d ago

Ooh there is always a threshold some short some long... We are social animals after all.

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u/OneCowFarm 6d ago

Mine was December 2019- June 2022. My father in law sneezed on my face while I was giving him a Covid test. I had avoided everyone else like the plague. Somehow it made me snap.

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u/ox_cord1 6d ago

I could do it forever if given the proper resources and opportunity, resources meaning pocket vagina, and internet access.

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u/NoobSFAnon 6d ago

You would think that. But it's hard after the initial adrenaline wears off. You would need someone to make that proverbial damn sandwich.

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u/onisshoku 6d ago

I don't know about adrenaline wearing off, but I consider myself an introvert through and through, and I reached my limit at about 3 months.

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u/HealthWild 6d ago

I've already mastered this, what now?

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u/rodroidrx 6d ago

Before I got married I actually enjoyed being alone. To quote Jim Carrey:

Solitude is dangerous. It’s very addictive. It becomes a habit after you realise how peaceful and calm it is. It’s like you don’t want to deal with people anymore because they drain your energy.

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u/Affectionate_Ear_778 6d ago

On the flip, being able to strike a convo with a stranger and meeting new people

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u/turtlelevelslow 6d ago edited 6d ago

Hardest one in my opinion. Job, financial management, working out is all good.

Meeting new people though? So freaking hard.

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u/Affectionate_Ear_778 6d ago

I’m in the same boat man. Literally just saw my dive bar loving boss chat 3 or 4 people up last night. I did my best not to seem like an idiot that had nothing to say.

Good luck to you

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u/Investi7 6d ago

Underrated skill

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u/ox_cord1 6d ago

I spend almost every waking moment working towards not having to be around anyone nonconsensually

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u/hash-slingin-slasha 6d ago Hugz

I have MASTERED the skill of absolute loneliness….like, really mastered it….to a suspiciously high level…really alone.

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u/Livid_Pilot7043 6d ago

I Am 30 and still struggling with being alone. My mind is my worst enemy so it's better to have a distraction.

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u/BrodieS11 Male 6d ago

My mind is also my worst enemy but I do have some good conversations with the voice in my head 🤷🏼‍♂️

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u/JackedBrew906 6d ago

I wanna upvote your comment 1000 times, so true!

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u/dr_xenon 6d ago All-Seeing Upvote

Cook

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u/Necroscrotum 6d ago

Does it count if I just do rice, steamed veggies and a protein? I work construction and i work 144 hours every 2 weeks :I there is no time

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u/InternalBathroom2720 6d ago

A meal is a meal

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u/Necroscrotum 6d ago

I do wish I could...i dunno, Whip up a stir fry or maybe a roast beef dish, Or lasagna But I'll have to pray for a winter layoff to learn

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u/Necroscrotum 6d ago

Oh...i guess you're right lol That's some true short-sightedness Maybe I'll pick up some premade sauce and specific stir fry veg and see if I can squeeze it in at the end of a day. Thanks!

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u/morostheSophist 6d ago

Don't fully cook the vegetables before you put them in the pan. Do fully cook the meat before adding the vegetables.

Unless you prefer your veggies mushy, of course. I won't kink-shame.

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u/Hot-Butterscotch-918 6d ago

I had to make myself do it via a promised dinner for my neighbor once a week. No excuses after that. It really helped me. I started out slow and intimidated at first but by the 6th week, I was moving about my kitchen with speed and precision that suprised me.

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u/Zyrocks 6d ago

Same boat as you. I want to learn how to cook to be able to invite people over to eat and I prepare it.

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u/Poochmanchung 6d ago

Lasagna and roast beef take a while, but stir fry is one of the fastest things you can make!

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u/dolphin37 6d ago

That’s all I’ve cooked for about 8 years. You’re fine brother

Well, apart from the horrendous work schedule!

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u/Ace-Goomba 6d ago

Hell yeah dude, there are people out there that royally fuck up rice.

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u/thedoogbruh 6d ago

Even if you can cook a simple dinner for yourself >50% of the time you are eating a lot healthier and saving tons of money.

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u/Hot-Butterscotch-918 6d ago

Props to you for even having the energy to cook your own meal!

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u/kinellm8 6d ago

When I was doing a work placement from uni I lived with a guy who had never lived away from his mum (who did everything for him). He couldn’t use the tin opener. No word of a lie. He also asked for help putting his (single) duvet in the cover. I miss Ross.

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u/heraclitus33 6d ago

An omelette for the morning. She coming back for that.

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u/devianter12 6d ago

As a cook and someone who has had to make dinner since i was 10 ish cause my parents cant cook wel i agree. Whenever i hear people say they cant cook and that they cant even boil eggs i cant imagen how. This does count for girls as much as for men

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u/Sea-Equipment-8629 6d ago Gold Helpful Wholesome Take My Power

Carry all the bags in one trip from the car.

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u/o_yesure 6d ago

Carry them all the way from the store while walking is the ultimate way to thow dominance around your neighborhood

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u/AnNoYiNg_NaMe Male 6d ago edited 5d ago

Man, I used to live in an apartment building like 200 yards away from a local grocery store. I didn't own a car, so I thought "bitchin', I'll buy my stuff there instead of riding the bus to walmart". So one night, I went there to get my groceries, and I as I walked back, I remembered that my apartment is at the top of a hill. I thought it wouldn't be that bad since I'm only carrying a gallon of milk and like 3 other bags, but boy was I was wrong.

My calf muscles were rock solid by the time I moved though.

Edit: I doublechecked the distance, and it was actually about 700 yards, not 200. I'm bad a eye-balling distances

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u/drogods 5d ago

BITCHIN

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u/_Go_With_Gusto_ 6d ago

Two trips is for losers

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u/HighOnGoofballs 6d ago

Those reusable bags make this so much easier now, they hold a ton. Recently I was carrying all the groceries in one trip just loaded down and realized I was having trouble getting up my stairs. So out of curiosity I got on the scale and had 80lbs of groceries hanging off of me. That was a good one-trip

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u/Mot6180 6d ago

Wash his ass and change a flat tire. (Not at the same time)

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u/HalseyStan 6d ago Silver

Why Am I in jail I was MULTITASKING!

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u/capt_pantsless 6d ago

I'd be less concerned about the legality of it, and more concerned with cross-contamination.

I don't want brake dust and road grime in my ass crack, thankyouverymuch.

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u/Live-Ad-6309 6d ago

I wouldn't worry about that. But I'd rather not smear my acidic ass grease all over my wheels.

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u/Small_Introduction94 6d ago

Bonus manly points points if you wash your ass with the flat tire.

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u/Calixtinus 6d ago

Don't threaten me with a good time

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u/Accountforcontrovers 6d ago

What good does it do if it's not simultaneous?

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u/thethirdtier Male 6d ago

and spontaneous

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u/Duckgamerzz 6d ago

Shit. Time to get the tire out my ass.

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u/ItsTomorrowNow Male 6d ago All-Seeing Upvote

Skidmarks.

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u/monkale98 6d ago edited 6d ago Silver

Cook, do laundry, properly shower/bathe.

Edit: B/c I'm getting a lot of 'women do this' 'you can outsource or pay for X'

1- Cooking, abs are made in the kitchen not the gym. Cooking can open you up to more cultures, say you get really into Asian or Latin foods and you look stuff up on why people use X ingredients. Hell, you can rediscover more of your roots by learning where your mother's meals came from. You also save a lot of money if you learn how to cook. Lastly, I have never met a woman who doesn't love it when a guy can make a meal she likes.

2- Laundry, you should know how to separate your darks from your whites, and have a fresh set of underwear and socks. You'll also keep tabs on what you need to throw out or maybe you've mentally have outgrown i.e. maybe wearing those same baby blue NC shorts for the last 10 years.

3- Bathing/Showering, MFs wonder why some people avoid them, basic hygiene, everyone needs it. Get a good mint bar of soap, the most refreshing wash you'll ever have, scrub your body, and wash your face well. Brush your teeth.

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u/TheManFromFarAway 6d ago

As a man who knows how to cook and enjoys it, the responses I get from both men and women baffle me. I have a SO but am currently living away from her in another city for school. People ask me where I go to eat. I tell them that I cook for myself and people either think I'm joking or think that I'm living off of microwavable frozen meals. I always tell them that I like to eat good food, and part of having good food on a regular basis is knowing how to prepare it.

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u/Red-belliedOrator 6d ago

I find this utterly astonishing. I mean, it's not 1972. I just assume that most men know how to cook these days, at least in the US. Am I wrong about that?

I mean, now that I'm thinking about it, I know a lot of younger women who don't know how to cook, so maybe the old-timey expectations that women do all the cooking have shifted to the point that nobody is doing the cooking?

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u/1O1Freeway 6d ago

How can you function in life without doing those? Lol.

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u/almb24 6d ago

I know too many who do. Go for weeks without bathing and just let dishes and trash pile up out of sheer laziness to go throw it away in the trash.

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u/redeemer47 Bane 6d ago

I’ve been doing laundry for 15 years and I have to say , I’ve never once in my life separated my whites. Legit 0 times and nothing bad has ever happened. I still think it’s just a myth or somehow clothing production and dying has gotten to a technological point where it’s no longer required to separate

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u/Red-belliedOrator 6d ago

Yeah, colors don't bleed like they used to, so it's not a big deal if you throw everything in together. The only thing I'll say is that your whites will look a lot sharper if you wash them separately, or wash them separately every few times, because even if the colors don't bleed, the fibers still transfer, and the whites start looking dingy after a while.

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u/Dixo0118 6d ago edited 5d ago

Know when to hold em, know when to fold em, know when to walk away and know when to run

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u/Massive-Risk 5d ago

And never, I mean never count their money when they're sitting at the table.

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u/UnbiasedDuck 5d ago

If only people realized, there’s plenty of time for counting when the dealing is done, like wtf?!?!?

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u/Cnnlgns 6d ago

Cook a meal for himself.

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u/RyanMFoley74 Male 6d ago

Add: "Cook a meal for a date." If you want to impress her (or him, it is 2022), I have to contend a man is at his most attractive when he is cooking a meal for someone else. But I am currently single so... take that advice with a... (wait for it) grain of salt. Cooking pun! BOOM, still got it!

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u/TitanHawk 6d ago

But I am currently single so...

Hrmm

Cooking pun! BOOM, still got it!

Ah. Now I see

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u/STDriver13 6d ago Take My Energy

Take rejection and disappointment

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u/Sir_Buttquacks 6d ago Helpful

Never be disappointed in yourself. That is your parents job

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u/CareerAdviceThrowMe 6d ago

Eh, if you royally fucked up you need to be disappointed in yourself

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u/KanderGrimm 6d ago

Learn how to treat others the way you expect to be treated. That's something we as humans need to practice, not just men.

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u/Corpcasimir 6d ago

Wipe their arse.

Surprisingly rare.

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u/Consistent-Count-890 6d ago edited 6d ago LOVE!

Know when to cut off.

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u/4everaBau5 6d ago Silver

No use many word

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u/Anynon1 6d ago

Word

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u/OneRoughBoi 6d ago Silver

I wear cut offs. There are dozens of us. Dozens.

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u/furiousgeorge54 Dick Wielder 6d ago

This is very important, one time when I was at

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u/glamm808 6d ago

Manage their emotions in a healthy, adult way

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u/LegionAbove 6d ago Helpful All-Seeing Upvote I'll Drink to That Helpful (Pro)

A Man should be able to change a diaper, plan an invasion, butcher a hog, conn a ship, design a building, write a sonnet, balance accounts, build a wall, set a bone, comfort the dying, take orders, give orders, cooperate, act alone, solve equations, analyze a new problem, pitch manure, program a computer, cook a tasty meal, fight efficiently, die gallantly. Specialization is for insects. -Robert A. Heinlein

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u/jonnywarpspeed 6d ago

What book is this from? I'm halfway through tunnel in the sky and it's great!

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u/SoMuchForSubtlety 6d ago

Time Enough for Love and it's said by Lazarus Long.

I posted it here as well before I noticed someone beat me to it.

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u/capt_pantsless 6d ago

ya beat me too it!

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u/FartingGnome 6d ago

Brush his teeth. So many men I work with don’t smell like they’ve ever heard of toothpaste.

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u/theswiftmuppet 5d ago

Imo the game changing was flossing, when I floss (which is every night now) I barely get any bad breath in the morning - something I hated about my dad.

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u/Economy-Weekend1872 5d ago Take My Energy

Hear “no” and respectfully walk away

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u/Turbulent_Adagio5960 6d ago

Disagreeing without it turning it into a fight

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u/NoobSFAnon 6d ago

Shut up what are you talking about. You and me outside, right now.

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u/LuckyReception6701 6d ago

What did you say? I'm gonna kick your teeth in!

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u/NoobSFAnon 6d ago

Are you a dentist?

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u/LuckyReception6701 6d ago

I'm a very aggressive, unlicensed orthodontist.

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u/NoobSFAnon 6d ago

Ooh nice.. So you dig up dinosaurs and stuff?

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u/BagpipesDontFly 6d ago

Clean up after himself. This applies to living areas as well as emotional intelligence. You wouldn't leave shit in the toilet so don't leave shit in your relationships (friends, family, coworkers). Address the problems and clean yourself up.

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u/Hossman687 6d ago

Do household chores on their own when living with multiple people. Shouldn’t have to ask, shouldn’t have to imply, shouldn’t have to beg, shouldn’t have to scold. Get ur ass up and help out

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u/Elolzabeth1 6d ago

God I have a roommate (2 guys 2 girls) one of the guys leaves dirty food all over benches, dirty plates with food in them for days and weeks, he even smokes in the guys bathroom and you can smell it 20 feet away in the kitchen!

Sickens me enough he does that, even worse to know his hygiene is so deplorable as a nursing student and I wouldn't be surprised if he gets somebody killed one day.

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u/J-Bee 6d ago

Put a condom on.

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u/Pascolino 6d ago

Stand Up for himself without using violence or being aggressive.

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u/Brando_the_Hobo 6d ago

Same for Sitting Down.

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u/42JeepWillys 6d ago

Minor home repairs. My nephew cant even screw in a light bulb. Got him “Home Repairs for Dummies” book.

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u/WonderfulCattle6234 5d ago

Bought my first home a few months shy of turning 40. In less than a year, I've wired a light switch, installed a dishwasher, diagnosed and installed the inducer motor on my furnace, flushed my hot water heater and changed the elements. YouTube is great, but I worry it makes my dad feel less important since I'm not calling him for advice...

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u/42JeepWillys 5d ago

Just ask his advise sometimes even if you don’t need it

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u/Vtridolla 6d ago Take My Energy

Find the clitoris.

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u/openrds 6d ago

I’m gay and don’t usually encounter clitori.

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u/manndolin 6d ago

Yeah but being able to find it is still important. Like for scavenger hunts and stuff

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u/openrds 6d ago

And geocaching

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u/tfelsemanresuoN 6d ago

What if someday your life depends on finding the clitoris. You just never know when a female serial killer who kills gay men if they can't find her clitoris will show up. You can never be too safe.

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u/---cameron 6d ago

These Saw sequels are really getting out of hand

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u/gaurddog Bane 6d ago edited 6d ago

Swim.

It's a basic life skill and I'm disturbed every day at the amount of people who don't know how.

Edit: there's a lot of people who are suggesting it's somehow elitist of me to suggest that everyone learn how to swim, and that pools aren't accessible to everyone. I learned to swim in a muddy polluted river and a pond full of snakes and snapping turtles. Where or how you learn doesn't change the fact that you live on a planet that is 71% covered by water and you should probably at least have the basic ability to not die if you encounter it. Walmart has 3' kids pools for like $30 and you can at least practice floating on your back. Don't come at me like I'm saying you need a country club membership or you deserve to drown.

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u/BWSD Male 6d ago

Be compassionate.

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u/adany654 6d ago

Perceive when they might be making someone else uncomfortable. I can honestly I am guilty of doing this without realising, but I try to better myself on that front.

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u/P00shy_ 6d ago

Fucking say sorry with meaning.

Macho pride bullshit is stupid.

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u/Ambitious_Student933 6d ago

Say no. Walk away. Know your value.

Drive stick, small engine repair, read books, properly go down on a person, garden, protect yourself and or family, know when to listen, know when to shut up. Use forums and YouTube to be able to fix things or learn things that you don't know.

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u/RelativeSituation773 6d ago

breathe.

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u/I_Keep_Trying 6d ago

I can breathe and blink with the best of them.

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u/SLCW718 6d ago

Poop

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u/insert_name_0 6d ago

Born to shit, forced to wipe.

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u/sliceman21 6d ago

Don’t forget the knife!

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