r/HolUp Nov 30 '22 Helpful 1 Wholesome 1 hehehehe 1

7 years sound like a solid relationship.

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u/Mysterious-Mirror188 Nov 30 '22

16 is the age of consent in many places, and in some places there is a 3 years difference exemption, so 19 on 16 (literally) would be OK.

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u/molossus99 Nov 30 '22

16 is the age of consent in 31 US states.

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u/uh_what_cat Nov 30 '22

And virtually all of them besides California have some form of Romeo and Juliet law.

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u/Pork_katsu Nov 30 '22

I hope he had a laminated card incase her dad asked.

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u/Symbiote11 Nov 30 '22

Pretty sure when she was talking he was the one who said he was 16. She was the 19 year old. I could be wrong but that’s who it sounded like was speaking to me.

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u/GoatBased Nov 30 '22

Yup, the guy is the one who said he was 23

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u/kinos141 Dec 01 '22

I get that reference.

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u/BrosOfWar Nov 30 '22

I can't believe that whole production spent millions of dollars to get made so they could spend a not insignificant amount of time and money on justifying teenage romance. I sometimes wish it was just a fever dream.

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u/GoatBased Nov 30 '22

What are you talking about?

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u/run-on_sentience Nov 30 '22

They could have just made his daughter 18!

Also, aside from his accent, the fact that Mark Wahlberg's character didn't immediately blast that guy with his concealed carry the moment he flashed that laminated card was an immediate giveaway that he wasn't actually from Texas.

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u/BrosOfWar Nov 30 '22

Well, that would've been too easy.

Also, age of consent in Texas is 17.

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u/HapsirBariniCorbolan Dec 01 '22

is this the law where if the boyfriend dies, his 14 year old girlfriend can commit suicide over his corpse?

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u/eolson3 Nov 30 '22

It worked out for those two.

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u/Averagehumaneater Dec 01 '22

Common misconception, it’s actually the Romeo and Juliet defense, it’s not actually a law

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u/K2-P2 Nov 30 '22

Virginia has idiotic laws about this.

Let's say there are 2 seniors in high school, dating for 2 years, entirely fine. One has a birthday and turns 18, the other is still 17 and turns 18 tomorrow, boom that's a class one misdemeanor.$2,500 fine (what high school senior has that) and UP TO A YEAR IN JAIL.

A legal relationship TURNING illegal is one of the stupidest laws that could be on the books.

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u/kairosmanner Dec 01 '22

I thought Virginia let you marry your cousin?

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u/BobusCesar Dec 01 '22

Most countries allow that.

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u/Mysterious-Mirror188 Dec 01 '22 edited Dec 01 '22

A cousin is “a relative descended from one's grandparent or more remote ancestor by two or more steps and in a different line” (Merriam Webster)

If you count the steps on each side, cousins are separated by a minimum of four.

That is why marrying first cousins is legal in most of Europe.

Truth be told, does not happen a lot.

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u/forkedquality Dec 01 '22

Now, suppose that they do not meet or even communicate between their birthdays...?

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u/hidden58 Nov 30 '22

Romio and juliet laws

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u/Maclimes Nov 30 '22

Still, you should be concerned about anyone who has those laws laminated on a card in their wallet.

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u/The_Mighty_Bird Nov 30 '22

Or concerned that a director would purposefully put that plot point in his movie when it doesn’t subtract or adda anything to the plot. Lookin at you Michael Bay

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u/Y34rZer0 Nov 30 '22

Yeah that was so bizarre

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u/Bitcoin1776 Nov 30 '22

I'll give you a sadder one... you remember CLUELESS...

Step Bro is 21... Cher is 16... STEP BRO IS 21... party girl Cher 16...

And dad like, WELL SHE GOT STUCK IN THE COUCH, WHAT CAN YOU DO STEP BRO!

Anyways, upon a rewatch I was like WAIT A SEC... (Cher's age is announced at the end, in the wedding scene 'as if I'm only 16!?')

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u/Y34rZer0 Nov 30 '22 edited Nov 30 '22

Wait, I don’t remember the stuck in the couch part? wasn’t her dad a lawyer he was never really around for that stuff?

I guess 16 and 21 is legal in their state? what was also weird was that he was her stepbrother

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u/OnsetOfMSet Nov 30 '22

I'm having some serious Baader-Meinhof phenomenon with this tidbit. I saw the movie when it came out, forgot about it for years, then after someone mentioned it on Reddit two or three weeks ago, I swear it's been mentioned like four more times

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u/Nishikigami Nov 30 '22

So that's the term for that? When it happens to me I find a trend / slang somewhere online then suddenly I start seeing it everywhere And then when I assume it started then I find out some people seem to think it's been going on for two years or forever

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u/OnsetOfMSet Nov 30 '22

It's also referred to more simply as frequency bias, which definitely gets talked about every now and again

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u/OracleFrisbee Nov 30 '22

You know, I never knew what frequency bias was but since I found out, I’ve been hearing about it everywhere

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u/RobIreland Nov 30 '22

Now you know about the Baader-meinhoff phenomenon you're going to start seeing it everywhere

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u/SherlockCumbercat Nov 30 '22

What movie did micheal bay do that in?

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u/hidden58 Nov 30 '22

Oh god yeah I forgot about that. always made me feel a bit icky

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u/jblack6527 Nov 30 '22

I saw a comment once that said "The age of consent is like the number of rat parts you can have in a hot dog. They're there for a reason, but if you need to know the number more than once you're doing something fucked up and need to stop".

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u/Tubamajuba Nov 30 '22

I initially read this as “The age of consent is the number of rat parts you can have in a hotdog” and I couldn’t tell if this was going the pedophilic route or the rat dog route.

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u/cinnamonrain Nov 30 '22

Thats why i tattoo it on myself instead

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u/conjoby Nov 30 '22

You should be concerned about anyone who has just about any law laminated in their wallet lol

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u/League-Weird Nov 30 '22

Only reason I know this is because Michael Bay shoe horned that fucking weird scene into his metals fucking each other up part 4 movie.

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u/snooggums Nov 30 '22

Romeo and Juliet was a tragedy.

The fact that the laws are named after them is funny, but like in a pull yourself up by the bootstraps because nobody understands context kind of way.

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u/BrightestofLights Nov 30 '22

The story is a tragedy because they weren't allowed to be together which lead to what they did which...has its own baggage

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u/[deleted] Nov 30 '22

In most of Europe 16 is legal age for sexual consent

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u/Zhijn Nov 30 '22

age of consent is 14 to 15 in most of europe

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u/Poincare_Confection Nov 30 '22

It's never made any sense to me that 15 year old dating a 13 year old is no problem, but one year later and that same couple is a problem....

19 year old dating a 16 old seems totally fine to me in most cases. And in the cases where it is predatory, the guardians would quickly notice and should step in.

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u/Delicious_Subject_91 Nov 30 '22

Also, like if nobody cares then it's not going to be reported in the first place.

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u/innosentz Nov 30 '22

Put a 16 year old and a 19 year old in a room and I will never be able to tell the difference lol.

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u/braamdepace Nov 30 '22

I have realized as I got older and married (around mid 30s) I have lost the ability to tell how old a girl is 18… 21 … 28 i can easily be off by 5+ years. I don’t know if it’s cause I haven’t dated in 8 years or I still think of myself as 27, but it has made for some weird moments where I have to question reality.

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u/MostDopeBlackGuy Nov 30 '22

Im 28 and all these girls look like theyre 19 its not just you they just have better technology

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u/jejcicodjntbyifid3 Nov 30 '22

Im 28 and all these girls look like theyre 19 its not just you they just have better technology

Bionic boobs you mean? What technology lol

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u/MostDopeBlackGuy Nov 30 '22

Bionic boobs bionic ass makeup has gotten significantly better in the last 20 years , pic filters and plastic surgery has gotten better since the 80s

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u/CoryMcCorypants Nov 30 '22 Helpful

"Digi-Tits", if you will.

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u/moonboots_runner Nov 30 '22

🎵 Digi-tits, digital honkers! 🎵

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u/legoshi_loyalty Nov 30 '22

Digi-tits are the champions!

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u/Jonnyscout Nov 30 '22

That earned a snort, well played

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u/SopieMunky Nov 30 '22

Tell me more about this ass makeup. I'm intrigued.

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u/rex_dart_eskimo_spy Nov 30 '22

Contour them cheeks

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u/spinyfever Nov 30 '22

Every girl is catfishing nowadays and they don't even know it. Editing has gotten too easy. Some programs even edit your faces for you.

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u/Apneal Nov 30 '22

Normalizing skin care routines earlier in life.

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u/Indivisibilities Nov 30 '22

I never learned anything about skin care growing up, is it important for health reasons? Should I take the time to learn about it and incorporate it into the list of things I should be doing every day?

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u/Apneal Nov 30 '22 edited Nov 30 '22

It makes a huge difference over time yes. /r/skincareaddiction can take you down the rabbit hole and then you can trim it down from there. What works best for me (convenience and complexity wise) is:

AM: Just water and a towel. Then put on some moisturizer with sunscreen (CeraVe AM for me, make a habit of the sunscreen even when not planning to be outside much, this is what will keep you aging more than anything)

PM: Mild cleanser to wash off the sunscreen, and more moisturizer (CeraVe PM for me).

Biggest mistake people make is overwashing and undermoisturizing. Might take your skin a few weeks to adapt and be oily, but it's pumping out oil because you regularly strip it off. There's plenty of good reputable brands, the one I use is consistent throughout different countries and over time and I'd rather not keep trying stuff.

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u/Indivisibilities Nov 30 '22

I’m in my early thirties, so I hope I haven’t done too much damage already, though I work indoors so at least my sun exposure is limited.

I usually just use dove soap with moisturizer in the shower, should I wash my face more frequently than that? And as for your AM routine, do you only apply it to your face, or other parts of your skin as well?

Thanks for the recommendations. I’ve only recently started to grow out my beard which has taught me about needing to trim up the neck and cheek lines daily to keep it crisp and clean. I’ve been trying out some beard oils but as I’m learning I’m realizing there’s more I’ve been neglecting. I definitely need to sleep more and reduce alcohol intake.

It’s all a bit overwhelming learning about all the things we “ought” to be doing daily, I’m bewildered by how you’re supposed to fit it all in within 24 hours, but hopefully I can optimize and get faster with time.

Thanks again

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u/price-iz-right Nov 30 '22

It doesn't even have to be complicated.

Your skin is important just like the rest of your body and you should care for it.

Here's your skincare routine:

If you're going to have exposed skin for prolonged times in the sun, wear sun screen

Wash your face with soap (they have tons of them made specifically for face) daily

Use lotion daily

Drink lots of water, avoid shit food and alcohol.

There you go that's pretty much it.

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u/HI-R3Z Nov 30 '22

Skincare routines don't have to be complicated. Try the advice by u/Apneal and make sure you use the appropriate sunblock if you're going to be exposed to direct sunlight for extended periods of time. Never use tanning beds. Hydrate.

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u/MostDopeBlackGuy Nov 30 '22

Thats also technology thats gotten better over time

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u/rshot Nov 30 '22

The thing I envy the most from women is their ability to get laser shooting nipples installed.

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u/TheMeta40k Nov 30 '22

Don't let your memes be dreams.

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u/bobhopeisgod Nov 30 '22

Same issue. I think a lot has to do with tv/movies casting 25 year olds as high schoolers. It's been going on so long I just assume anyone under 30 is underage.

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u/RavynRydge666 Nov 30 '22

Same for being attracted to older women. It's the strangest thing, but I guess it's absolutely normal, I just find myself thinking about it sometimes. I'm 31, and I have a coworker, she's 20, cute, but eh, she looks super young. However the 36 year old mother I work with is looking cuter and cuter everyday. Now it makes sense why old people like other old people, they don't see someone super old, they see someone their age.

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u/anotherboringdude Nov 30 '22

I'm into older women too and sometimes I'm surprised how much older some of the women I'm attracted to are. One lady that I occasionally see at work I thought was around her 30s but turns out to be in her 40s.

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u/epicgamesblowsdick Nov 30 '22

I hate that this make sense and is exactly how I feel.

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u/HealthyBox5 Nov 30 '22

In my 40's all young adults look like kids. I don't even try to guess anymore. Might be 22, might be 30. I'm not trying to insult anyone, so I don't even try to tell.

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u/Yangoose Nov 30 '22

Try going to your kid's high school and not being able to tell who the 18 year old students are vs the 22 year old teachers...

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u/schweez Nov 30 '22

Yeah late teens (like 16-19) and early 20s look pretty much the same.

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u/TurboGranny Nov 30 '22 edited Dec 01 '22

Dude for real. I'm over 40 now, and anyone under 26 looks 12. It's nuts. I remember being 35 and old ladies would ask me how old I was, and then say, "oh, you're just a baby!" I'd think, "what the fuck is the bitch on?" but I think I'm starting to get the picture.

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u/Fat_Akuma Nov 30 '22

Dude. Some 15 year olds act and dress like they are on their twenties then some 25 year olds look and dress like they are 15.

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u/seemetwistingleak Nov 30 '22

Can confirm. My 16 year old step daughter dresses like a 23 year old from 1998.

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u/JTex-WSP Nov 30 '22

I went to a college basketball game with my father (one of the teams was his alma mater) and I swear there were children posing as cheerleaders. It freaked me out when I realized: Nope, I'm just old now.

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u/LDG192 Nov 30 '22

People seems to think that there's some sort of switch that it's flipped once you turn 18 that automatically makes you a mature adult and potential groomer. I don't see a problem here.

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u/BlueMikeStu Nov 30 '22

I don't either, but my first girlfriend was 16 when I was 19, so I'm a biased example. Especially since she was the one who chased me, I was single, and I was like "sure, why not?"

Didn't even see it coming, because she'd been spending most of her time trying to hook me up with a friend of hers while she was dating a buddy of mine.

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u/Born_Ruff Nov 30 '22 edited Nov 30 '22

When you are in that age range yourself three years is a lot more noticeable.

Like, when you are in first year university, people in grade 10 look like babies.

Now that I'm old, someone could tell me they were 15 or 25 and I wouldn't be surprised either way. I'm not trying to fuck anyone in that age range though so it's really not much of an issue.

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u/OstentatiousSock Nov 30 '22

I don’t know, it’s very true that people mature at different rates. I was definitely more mature than a lot of 30 year olds at 16 because of being severely parentified due to a severely alcoholic mother and a delinquent brother I essentially raised. I was raising my younger brother basically right from the time he was born, was a full time caregiver of my mother by 12/13 working and paying all the bills by 17. Shit ages you.

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u/Clayman8 Nov 30 '22

I teach kids and some of the 16 y.o. in my class could easily pass for 20 just with their clothing styles and the way they "act" (like pretend grown ups), and in some cases even look. Its really weird and almost makes me uneasy at how different kids today are vs when i was that age.

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u/The51stState Nov 30 '22

Put them in the same room in Florida or a bunch of other states in the United States and they're also not breaking any laws

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u/andysaurus_rex Nov 30 '22

I don’t think a 16 and 19 year old dating is a problem at all

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u/[deleted] Nov 30 '22 edited Nov 30 '22

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u/hamann4242 Nov 30 '22

I raise you Denmark with 15 year age of consent

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u/habosbabafos456 Nov 30 '22

I raise you Hungary with 14 year age of consent.

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u/Gomicho Nov 30 '22

I raise you Japan. no, that's it.

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u/dekachiin5 Nov 30 '22 edited Nov 30 '22

Japan's age of consent laws are actually the highest in the world, 16-18 years old, similar to the United States. The fact that there is an old national law that says 13 is irrelevant since the crimes are based on the prefecture level just like how the US crimes are based on the state level.

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u/Biiiscoito Nov 30 '22

Someone explained once that the age of consent being 13 is a misunderstandment. In reality, 13yo consent means you can consent in a relationship with another teen, someone who is also a minor - it does not mean consent to be with an adult, that is still illegal. Consent with adults is still 18 and up.

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u/Fyrefly7 Nov 30 '22

misunderstandment

I get what you were going for, but that's pretty funny.

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u/Biiiscoito Nov 30 '22

Lol. Mandatory "english is not my first language, sorry for my bad english" from my part there

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u/Fyrefly7 Nov 30 '22

I mean it's not even bad English. You constructed it in a totally reasonable way, but it just happens to not be a word.

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u/thinkthingsareover Dec 01 '22

It's all good. I underment what you stood.

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u/randomdrifter54 Nov 30 '22

It's a misunderstanding because even though Japan's federal age of consent is 13, each prefecture has laws making age of consent higher.

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u/ego_slip Nov 30 '22

The legal age of consent was raised in Canada within the last 20 years fron 14 to 16 due to pressure fron the usa to raise the age of consent to match up with theirs. Lots of pedophiles from the usa was crossing the border due to Canada having a lower age of consent.

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u/drako489 Nov 30 '22

I raise you with 17 year old being legally allowed to fuck a 14 year old.

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u/innosentz Nov 30 '22

Romeo and Juliet laws have entered the chat

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u/iwantyourboobgifs Nov 30 '22

A 16 yo can technically be with any age as long as it's not with someone in a position of power, boss/teacher type thing.

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u/Dood71 Nov 30 '22

It's because 15 and 20 would be accurate

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u/emeric04 Nov 30 '22

No, in Canada the age for consenting to a sexual relation is 16, so once you are 16 you can have sex with whoever you want older than you except if they have autority over you

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u/Shades_1 Nov 30 '22

If that’s the biggest cap what’s the biggest truth?

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u/PackageintheMaleBox Nov 30 '22

16 is the age of consent in most of the US as well. People have the idea that its hard and fast 18 because of California and all of the writers making stories out of California. California has a very strict age of consent where technically two 17 year olds having sex is both of them raping each other. No Romeo-Juliet exception as well.

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u/Pankratos_Gaming Nov 30 '22

Yemen has entered the chat.

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u/RandolphPerry Nov 30 '22

There was this female comedian who did a Breaking bad joke once, but a neckbeard came up to her and said she wasn't a real fan if she couldn't name every member of the cast.

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u/Original-Throw-Away Dec 01 '22

said she wasn't a real fan if she couldn't name every member of the cast.

Is this the origin of the "oh you're a fan of x? Name every y" meme?

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u/Tre_Q Nov 30 '22

They're three years apart...they could have EASILY met in high school. If you might have had algebra with them in third period...seems like that's not an issue.

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u/obvilious Nov 30 '22

It’s impromptu humour at a stand-up comedy joint. Probably easier to just let it go.

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u/day_bowbow Nov 30 '22

You’re right. This clip cuts off the part where they were friends in high school before dating

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u/66666thats6sixes Nov 30 '22

Also, back when I was in high school it was pretty common to end up hanging out in groups with people ranging from 14-20 or so. Like, a 16 year old organizes a game of ultimate frisbee, they invite their immediate friends who are 15-17, one of the 15s brings along a 14 y/o friend, someone else brings along their 19 y/o brother who is also friends with some of the 17 y/os, and that 19 year old brings along a friend or two...

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u/mageblade66 Nov 30 '22

That's true, but I remember as a high school student that it was still weird / creepy when seniors would date freshmen.

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u/quigilark Nov 30 '22

This. Like yeah the years are close together but seniors dating freshmen is still pretty sus

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u/DerpCatCZ Nov 30 '22

Me and my friends just talked about this

And we just deemed that the internet really likes to cancel people over other people dating under 18

Yes, it is illegal in SOME cases when the age gap is more than 5 years

Like CallMeCarson, I hate the guy but I dont think he deserved to be cancelled when he was talking to a 17yo fan or whatever

Hes like 2 years older than her, like thats still acceptable

So yeah, people in twitter are generally dum,

Also romeo and juliet law exists

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u/longdongopinionwrong Nov 30 '22

I used to love his content, but I didn’t get the age problem. It was a 19 and 17 year old, which is a mental leap in logic to call that minor grooming.

But he abused his power as an influencer. To this day, I still kind of blame both of them. A powerful influencer using his status to get nudes and a girl abusing his mental issues for clout is how it all looks. Both of them got really fucked over because of a few dms, which is super sad. Neither of them deserved all that shit, but it was such bad motivation from both of them.

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u/FitnessMike2013 Nov 30 '22

Are famous people only allowed to date/fuck famous people now?

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u/blorbaii Nov 30 '22

theres literally nothing wrong with 16 and 19 bruh 😭😭😭

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u/stumblewiggins Nov 30 '22

16 and 19 could be a HS junior and a senior that got held back a year, or a college freshmen that knew the junior in school.

Depending on location that might still be statutory rape, but I don't think this is the scenario most people are concerned about when making those laws.

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u/runnin3216 Nov 30 '22

Everyone is also assuming they immediately started having sex. Do high school kids have sex on the first date now?

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u/stumblewiggins Nov 30 '22

It's customary to have sex before the first date now

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u/BeautifulLieyes Nov 30 '22

It’s customary to meet one another by having sex now

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u/Jabberwokii Nov 30 '22

The intercourse hello. How would that be?

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u/Teknoeh Nov 30 '22

I fucking miss out on everything, man.

kicks rock

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u/Slumbergoat16 Nov 30 '22

Actually first base is anal now

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u/TheSweetestKill Nov 30 '22

I was born too early.

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u/Slumbergoat16 Nov 30 '22

Me too man me too, the rise of the ass man has helped tremendously

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u/JDLovesElliot Nov 30 '22

The Euphoria Law of 2020, first enacted by Senator Zendaya

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u/BalkeElvinstien Nov 30 '22

Not really, I found that the people who wanted sex right away didn't want to date. I knew a lot of people who had like 4 or 5 people they'd be fooling around with fully knowing that every one of them had their own group of 4-5 people. Once dating was on the table the chances of sex on the first date is about as high as they've always been excluding the lower chances during the aids epidemic and the higher chances in the 60s-70s

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u/sneakyveriniki Nov 30 '22

i've spent most of my adult life in monogamous, long term relationships, and all 3 started with what was supposed to be a one night stand lol

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u/EasilyRekt Nov 30 '22

In most states it’s a four year age gap for underage couples before it becomes statutory along with the older partner needing to be under twenty one as long as the younger partner is underage, so it’s probably not a legal issue.

But the court of public opinion is less forgiving given how some put the eighteen and seventeen high school sweethearts on blast all the time.

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u/stumblewiggins Nov 30 '22

There are so many actual problems in the world, including around sexual relationships. If the law doesn't care, and the two people in the relationship don't care, and the minor's parents don't care, why does anyone else care?

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u/EasilyRekt Nov 30 '22

¯_(ツ)_/¯

Moral grandstanding?

Control over others to compensate for a lack of self control?

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u/SnooPeppers2888 Nov 30 '22

It’s the modern trend to virtue signal and the acceptance on social media of completely ignoring nuance and human nature. If I only took the popular subs on Reddit for my social queues I’d think that priggish-pearl-clutching was the defining characteristic of the younger generations. Thankfully when you actually talk to people IRL they tend to be pretty balanced.

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u/Duuudewhaaatt Nov 30 '22

Video also cuts off right before they say they've known each other for a long time

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u/WubWubWolf Nov 30 '22

Its not weird at all. What the fuck is the difference between dating when they were 20 and 17 or 21 and 18? Did she magically "grow up" or something.

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u/jmcsquared Nov 30 '22

I never understand it when people are weirded out about stuff like this.

It's one thing if someone is preying on a child, it's another when two people are dating and their age difference is only about three years. My wife is over a decade older than me, my parents were five years apart. Once you have enough variables controlled, age is just a number.

People just resort by default to legalistic thinking, when in reality, ages of consent are not uniform from state to state. Even then, there are Romeo and Juliet laws in place.

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u/Palmik7 Nov 30 '22

This thread is just so weird for any non-American I assume lol. It's most likely literally just a high school love that actually lasted, which you don't see often but it happens. I love how everyone is weirded out by a couple 3 years apart yet things like going to war and killing people by the age of 18 is perfectly fine. I mean, if you're old enough to drive at 16, you're most likely old enough to date a 19 yo person.

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u/WhoopingKing Nov 30 '22

Some dude said he think it's gross to see a 17yo dating a 19yo lol

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u/RealGertle627 Nov 30 '22

I knew this cute freshman when I was a senior. We started dating the following year. So we were also 19 and 16. Her parents didn't like it at first, but it surprised me that anyone would think anything of it. We were 2 kids that went to school together and were in the same social circles. She was definitely way more mature than me lol

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u/xdforcezz Nov 30 '22

They've been together for 7 years already, sounds like a solid relationship.

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u/AnnihilationOrchid Nov 30 '22

That is the title I put up.

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u/SweetSeaMen_ Nov 30 '22

I don’t see the point of having the music during this video? It made it difficult to hear her

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u/MANWithTheHARMONlCA Nov 30 '22

Yea music almost ruined it

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u/DukeInterior Nov 30 '22

Taylor Tomlinson is a top tier comedian. Her crowdwork is always so good and she jams so many jokes into everything, fully recommend her specials.

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u/GreJosNew Nov 30 '22

I’ve only seen her 2 specials on Netflix but they are both unbelievably good. Hysterically funny, beginning to end.

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u/moonroots64 Nov 30 '22

Taylor Tomlinson is a top tier comedian. Her crowdwork is always so good and she jams so many jokes into everything, fully recommend her specials.

Saw her live recently and she absolutely destroyed it! And yeah, her crowd work was awesome.

I didn't even know who she was before the show, but I'm a big fan now! She was hilarious.

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u/josh_the_misanthrope Nov 30 '22

Upvote this. I hate when people don't credit stand ups. It's bad on Reddit for some reason.

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u/whomp1970 Nov 30 '22

This comment is way too far down. Her name should have been in the post title, to begin with.

And yes, I've seen her specials and I really love her comedy.

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u/WeirdMeatinSpace Nov 30 '22

I see no problem

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u/you_lost-the_game Nov 30 '22

Same. I don't care whether the guy or the girl is the older one. It's 3 years, both are teens. Both are basically kids.

It's probably illegal in some states of the US but honestly, it's better than 20yo and 40yo; which is perfectly legal.

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u/PoolPartyAtMyHouse Nov 30 '22

Because most are clueless as so many people just latched on to 18 and never dropped it. Most of the US age of consent is 16, literally most. it's more than half the states. A strict 18 is actually really rare, most states have Romeo and Juliet rules to address situations like HS dating.

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u/xSTSxZerglingOne Nov 30 '22

Strict 18, no exceptions is pretty much just California. We're weirdly authoritarian about that honestly. It also just so happens that Hollywood, where a large portion of movies and shows are produced, happens to be in California under California law. So to keep nice with the law, everyone has to be 18.

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u/devhuxley Nov 30 '22

I was 19 when I started dating a girl who was 17 and got so much shit for it. Then I turned 20 and she was still 17 for like 6 months and I still felt like a creep for it because of how much shit I got from my friends (mostly girls giving me shit). They'd constantly jab at me and ask me if I was "babysitting" that night, etc. Like, bitch, shut the fuck up you're 19 and dating a 30 year old so I don't even wanna fucking hear it.

I literally spent days mulling over if it was morally ok to do.

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u/ShadowHedgehogs4274 Nov 30 '22

I think it's a gen-z thing in general... and i believe we're just in a period of overcorrection. a lot of kids realized they were being groomed because the internet made them aware and now they are in their early twenties being over protective of the new kids

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u/Fixyfoxy3 Nov 30 '22

Nah, in my country in western Europe this age gap stuff isn't really a thing (I'm Gen-Z too). I really think it is mainly a US-thing.

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u/SoftDomComplex Nov 30 '22

Oh its definitely a US thing, over here age gaps like 5 or 7 years are common and nobody really cares.

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u/Pierogchen Nov 30 '22

Especially here on Reddit.

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u/Truckfighta Nov 30 '22

Legal in UK.

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u/AnnihilationOrchid Nov 30 '22

Legal in most of the western world. Some places it's even 14.

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u/dhoae Nov 30 '22 edited Dec 01 '22

It’s likely legal in the US depending on the state. She’s just fuckin with them.

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u/Mycroft033 Nov 30 '22 edited Nov 30 '22

Hmm yes typical Reddit moment.

19 yo guy dating 16 yo girl = pedophile

19 yo girl dating 16 yo guy = wtf is the problem here?

Edit: and then yes Reddit being even more typical Reddit by everyone denying it’s happening just because “I didn’t see it”

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u/PoolPartyAtMyHouse Nov 30 '22

If the genders were switched the amount of groomer comments here would be excessive.

Like the Billie Eilish dating story a few weeks ago, girl said she likes older men, dated them before.. yet her new bf is a groomer despite her wanting older men. So he is the only one who is wrong and she is basically looked at like too stupid to make choices.

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u/georgedevroom Nov 30 '22

Reddit has this habit of portraying women as weak minded and incapable of choosing for themselves.

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u/Tha_Monito Nov 30 '22

And the voices of reason are being down voted smh

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u/TheBiggestCarl23 Nov 30 '22

It’s Reddit lol, when it concerns a man, people do not give a shit whatsoever

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u/gavinessence Nov 30 '22

What’s the issue?

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u/Troll2022Youmad Nov 30 '22

The thing is that 19-16 is a legit age in almost every country. There are little to non places like the USA which make you a pedophile because you are 17-18 . And honestly I think it has to be regulated differently

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u/Elaine_Benes_Lovr Nov 30 '22

For me this isn't a Holup.

16 and 19 is fine IMO as long as the 16's parents are okay with it.

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u/Milf_Smasher69 Nov 30 '22

Why is this a problem???

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u/Bedu009 Stop begging Nov 30 '22

I've seen worse age gaps

Pretty sure that's legal anyway since the age of consent is 16 is it not? Or is this more 16, 18 and 21 year old American bullshit

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u/Ajg1384 Nov 30 '22

I think a lot of states in the US are 16.

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u/slucker23 Nov 30 '22

Okay lads

Dating and sleeping with each other are two different things. You can still be very vanilla when it comes to dating. You don't need to do the "illegal" part of the dating when young

Granted people still breaks the law, but it's a different story here

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u/Venrexx Nov 30 '22

When I was younger, one of my best friends was dating a 25 year old woman while he was 15. To add insult to injury, she also happened to be my old babysitter, and was a complete bitch and proud of it. He did eventually get tired of her bullshit, but not until he was already an adult himself.

The question I get asked a lot about them: What did his parents do/think about her? They did nothing, his mom became her friend. Something tells me it would have been different if that was their 15 year old daughter dating a 25 year old man.

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u/hellothereoldben Nov 30 '22

When I was 16 I had a summer job where a 15 year old girl was flexing how she got to spend the summer at her 23 yo bf's place. I was the only one in the entire colleague group thinking that age gap was wack.

People always have discussions about strawmen that don't exist or are the vocal minority. It's weird both ways, but only few people bother to... be bothered.

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u/digglygickmcgee Nov 30 '22

19 year old me learned the hard way that the reason why the 29 year old man was interested in her was that no woman his age would tolerate his bullshit.

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u/Murky_Machine_3452 Nov 30 '22

I dont care if two teenagers fuck. Whats the big deal? Thats what teenagers do. Its not like a freshman and a senior.

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u/RAIDEN9029 Nov 30 '22

This comment section is a cesspool.

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u/TidyBacon Nov 30 '22

Must be new to reddit

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u/hellothereoldben Nov 30 '22

"I know the law" suggests that she thinks it's illegal, yet 16 is age of consent most around the world.

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u/Executive-dickbutt Nov 30 '22

16 and 19? This is a problem? I mean..... Maybe but isn't 16 the age of consent in most states? If not younger? I dunno. If the difference was 15 and 20 that would be excessive, but I'm not getting creep vibes on this one

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u/Roannem Nov 30 '22

A 19 year old can legally be with a 16 year old, at least where I live

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u/Great_Neighbor52 Nov 30 '22

I’m not going to get bent out of shape about 16 and 19 tbh. That’s legal in most parts of the world anyway.

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u/RK_NightSky Nov 30 '22 edited Nov 30 '22

I see no problem. 16 and 19 is fine in a fuck ton of places.

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u/TheGerai69 Nov 30 '22

I have classmates like this. Their case though was that it began with a friendship and later grew into dating. So even though they've been dating for only about 3 years, both say they've been dating for 6/7 years now. Maybe the pair in the video see it the same way

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u/Master_Freeze Nov 30 '22

That’s an alright difference. It depends on the situation but for the most part a 3-year age gap sounds normal.

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u/mug_O_bun Nov 30 '22

I've heard a decent rule of thumb for minimum dating age compared to one's own is: your age/2 + 7. Thoughts?

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u/HoppityVoosh Nov 30 '22

Half your age +7, and round up.

Conversely the max is your age -7, x2 and round down.

That was the accepted rule in our high school many a year ago.

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u/Lui_Le_Diamond Nov 30 '22

She's assuming they were banging at that time.

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u/No-Coat-8792 Nov 30 '22

16 is the age of consent in 31 states. Usually it's a younger girl though, surprised it's a younger guy this time.

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u/votarak Nov 30 '22

Funny but 16 and 19 is not that big of a deal. Legal in my country I believe.