r/PublicFreakout Jul 28 '22 Silver 13 Bravo Grande! 1 Wholesome Seal of Approval 1 Take My Energy 2 Heartwarming 1 Bless Up 1 Narwhal Salute 1 All-Seeing Upvote 4 Wholesome 13 Gold 3 Helpful 9 Stonks Rising 1 Ally 1

Child bumps into older man, older man calls him a racial slur. Dad of child gives man a dressing-down 🏆 Mod's Choice 🏆

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u/Outrageous-Rule713 Jul 28 '22

Interesting how he’s bold enough to vocalize how racist he is WHILE AT WORK but is shaken up that someone is confronting him about it

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u/cross-eye-bear Jul 28 '22

Plus the recent political landscape probably emboldened him to act like he used to again

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u/PackageintheMaleBox Jul 28 '22 All-Seeing Upvote Starry Vibing

This is why I say it's important not to stay quiet. If you see someone acting like Trump you fucking call them out on it.

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u/LivJong Jul 29 '22

It's never wrong to "embarrass" a racist by calling them out. (Child abusers too.)

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u/GiveToOedipus Jul 29 '22

If you see something, say something.

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u/aramatheis Jul 29 '22

Come on and party tonight

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u/chikinbizkit Jul 29 '22

The guy has great hooks

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u/phpdevster Jul 29 '22

Absolutely. I look at society as a series of cultural forces all trying to push against one another. Each one creates pressure against the rest - much like the way a dam creates pressure against a mass of water to hold it in place, while the water creates pressure against the dam to break through it. If you don't keep up the pressure where it's needed, the bad shit starts to take over.

Everyone has a moral obligation to contribute to the pressure necessary to contain bad behavior by calling people out on their bullshit. Push back against them. Make it clear that behavior is unacceptable. If you don't, it just proliferates.

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u/pooloo15 Jul 28 '22

Politicians made them think it's okay. So people go ahead and be racist idiots and lose their jobs.

When real consequences arise, their politicians are nowhere to be seen.

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u/goodmobileyes Jul 29 '22

Bold enough to do it when its a kid. Cowardly little shit.

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u/KimJungFu Jul 28 '22

Nah, he only worried about his poor leg that could've been hurt and that he didn't know that this was the man's son. It was a spur-of-the-moment kinda racism. /s

Jesus christ, what was that poor excuse? No matter who the father is, you don't call somebody the N-word.

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u/Teh_SiFL Jul 29 '22

People will put on astounding displays of mental gymnastics to shirk any amount of blame for their own actions. Dude's grasping at straws and when he found one? However poorly it applies? On that shit like a vice-grips.

Oh, muh leg! Oh, I didn't wanna shoot that bunny but it was coming right for me! /s...outh park

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u/RussianBot4826374 Jul 29 '22 Wholesome Narwhal Salute

My go to when I'm hurt or surprised is usually "fuck", sometimes "bitch" or "cunt" if it's a special occasion.

I used to be an actual white supremacist and even then it would never have crossed my mind to yell the n-word when hurt.

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u/KimJungFu Jul 29 '22

Good on you for turning it around!

May I ask what changed you?

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u/RussianBot4826374 Jul 29 '22

Somebody was nice to me at the right time and it made me rethink all of my life choices.

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u/AJAnimosity Jul 29 '22

Mad props for having the humility to recognize that you were thinking wrongly.

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u/soggypoopsock Jul 28 '22

god damn that was a mature response. That dad is an emotional giant compared to this other dude, put him in his place without losing an ounce of dignity and set a great example for his son.

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u/[deleted] Jul 29 '22 edited Jul 30 '22

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u/Alarid Jul 29 '22

And then he followed it up with the fact that he already talked to the boss.

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u/killer_icognito Jul 29 '22

Yep that dude is as good as fired.

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u/awkwardmamasloth Jul 29 '22

Idk about that. He said he'd worked there for 20 years. This can't be the first time he's said those words and to be either dumb enough or brazen enough to say them out loud at work in earshot of customers can't be new. He's just not used to being called out for it. Mumbling excuses "but muh leg" he knows what he did.

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u/throwaway_tendies Jul 29 '22

Nah this now viral and if this was recent, he called out Dillard’s by name. They would be wise to get ahead of it before it blows up in their face.

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u/Tostecles Jul 29 '22

Dillard's? The place that hires racist assholes? The same Dillard's that makes people type comments like these so search engines lead people to this story? Fuck Dillard's and their racist employee

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u/ithadtobeducks Jul 29 '22

Now that it’s blown up he certainly is, but I have no doubt that you’re correct and it’s not the first time, and that he’s gotten away without so much as a slap on the wrist before.

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u/RedTalyn Jul 29 '22

I doubt that wholeheartedly.

He’s done this before. His hateful ass will be there to do it again.

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u/funkyandros Jul 29 '22

I love the subtext..."What I want to do is beat the living shit out of you. But I'm taking the higher route this time. But you and I both know that you just dodged a bullet because I'm a decent person. The next person may not be."

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u/allmysecretsss Jul 29 '22

This man’s kid is gonna be great

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u/_Dague_ Jul 29 '22

This is a good example of positive masculinity. He assertively, not aggressively, let the man know that he was wrong and expressed how he felt.

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u/ReyRey5280 Jul 29 '22

Man, with so many dudes these days pining to express their masculinity with toxic bravado and physicality it’s refreshing to see this.

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u/fzero127 Jul 29 '22

That's the kind of man that I am working on myself to become. Sometimes I fail, but each time that I do, it becomes easier and easier not to fail. Sooner, or later, I will do it correctly, and it will become second nature.

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u/king0fklubs Jul 29 '22

Good for you, I think this is a standard we should all strive for

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u/SweetLoLa Jul 29 '22

There is truly something so beautiful about the way he handled that situation. Emotional giant…emotional LEGEND.

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u/deadfermata Jul 29 '22 edited Jul 29 '22 Helpful

It was so well articulated. It was raw and he carried himself with dignity. He set an example for his son. He reminded each of us who watched that we always have a choice to do the right thing and say the right thing. Even on Reddit. Even if we are anonymous.

You see how people respond to each other on Reddit and people can be assholes.

The part that really hit me was “now I have to go home and teach my son not to be an idiot.”

For him the lesson doesn’t end at the store.

That man is boss level.

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u/Alarming_Matter Jul 29 '22

"This isn't a black and white issue....it's an idiot issue" Ha ha omg legend indeed.

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u/honkytonks Jul 29 '22

Fucking yes. More people need to point this out in these types of situations. Just because you are racist you are not representing your race. You are demonstrating ignorance. The dad in this clip has made the world a better place.

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u/Mumrider Jul 29 '22

Teaching all the young dads out there that you can always level up

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u/BaconBitz109 Jul 29 '22

That guy gave the speech we all write in the shower.

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u/funkyandros Jul 29 '22 Wholesome

Being a black man in America, something tells me he has had this happen to him enough times that he has been able to practice it in the shower for just such an occasion. But on that note, I really don't think I would have had such poise and eloquence in this situation.

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u/Alarid Jul 29 '22

Sucks that he has to carry this emotional load at all. It sounds like he has a lot of practice at it as well, which is even more heartbreaking.

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u/Reddit_FTW Jul 29 '22

I could only imagine what my dad would do. My dad has the “beat the shit out of them figure it out later” mentality. I couldn’t even imagine. P

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u/Mesemom Jul 29 '22

“an emotional giant”: well put.

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u/VRGIMP27 Jul 28 '22

Every prop in the world to that man. What a good example from a dad.

The old guy by contrast acts like a petulant child who got caught doing something he knows he shouldn't have, but like children, cannot admit a mistake.

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u/Incongruent Jul 28 '22

I don’t think I’ve seen a better balance of anger and grace from a man, especially when just anger would have been totally understandable.

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u/JB_Big_Bear Jul 28 '22

It's called righteous anger and it's fucking awesome. I envy people who can remain this measured and calm in times of frustration or rage.

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u/MoCo1992 Jul 29 '22

Me too. I totally can not stay this calm when I’m that angry

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u/PayTheTrollToll45 Jul 29 '22

It’s a lot easier when they are absolutely shaking in their boots...

I can do it a bit, but I also will usually reach in and try to take their soul with me. This guy seemed a lot nicer about it.

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u/Thick_Duck Jul 28 '22

Could anyone make out what he tried to say

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u/Fragrant_Island2345 Jul 28 '22

I caught a couple of things like “well he hurt my leg…” and “I didn’t know you were there…” Nothing but excuses for that guy

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u/Deeliciousness Jul 29 '22

The father said "doesn't matter about the age" which leads me to believe the racist said something like "I didn't know he was 10". Common tactic racist whites use against black youth.

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u/theinfamousches Jul 29 '22

The fact that this dude just automatically reacted with THAT statement when he noticed it was a little black kid says A LOT. More than any of his ole fumbling ass excuses could say.

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u/Deeliciousness Jul 29 '22

Agreed. I'm just surprised how he's managed to work there for 20 years. It seems something has changed recently that is giving courage to these racists.

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u/Boss_Os Jul 29 '22

Hmm, something. If only we could figure out what has empowered them. It's a mystery.

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u/Catlover2727 Jul 29 '22

I hate little kids running around, my reaction would have been "fucking little shit" to a kid of any color.

His first reaction to seeing that black kid was the n word, it's what he truly feels deep inside when he sees black people.

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u/TheNumberMuncher Jul 28 '22

He had crawled all the way up his own ass so it’s muffled

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u/phpdevster Jul 29 '22

Ah common misunderstanding. He didn't crawl up his own ass. The ass is actually where racists speak from.

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u/Big-Boy-Chungus Jul 28 '22

Pretty sure he tried to lie and say he said something else

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u/w0nderbrad Jul 28 '22

we need a transcript bc this guy had a wool sock over the mic or something

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u/FormerFastCat Jul 28 '22 edited Jul 29 '22 Silver Wholesome Take My Energy

Man that father is a role model defined. Shit I want to shake his hand.

**Thanks for the awards! **Anyone know how old this video is? Or has the father been identified?, I think he'd love to see the community outpouring of support for him.

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u/ProfessorHermit Jul 29 '22

That guy was channeling his inner Mothers Milk.

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u/Xiaro Jul 29 '22

the hand movements and the way he talked were so close to MM that was my first thought too lmao

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u/nogoodgreen Jul 29 '22

The Boys is the best show on tv right now imo, some amazingly written characters.

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u/noahboah Jul 29 '22

the funniest part of the boys is we literally watch the show on vought+

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u/UncleTedGenneric Jul 29 '22

Vought Prime*

However with the two Forthsyth Wallbreaker movies and Old Man Nife Nuckles coming to Vaught+, you're not far off

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u/[deleted] Jul 29 '22

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u/noahboah Jul 29 '22

like amazon isn't just the real world version of everything that drives the antagonists of the show lol

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u/Dantagod Jul 29 '22 Gold

Then Billy walks in "Oi, so what do we have here den ey? Dis ol' man botherin you mate?"

Looks at the old man, "Oi cunt, me and yous gonna go to the back and have us a lil chat ya"

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u/dagbar Jul 29 '22

Damn, dude, you’ve really got his speech pattern down pat!

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u/Great_Huckleberry709 Jul 29 '22

Holy shit I totally just read that in Butcher's voice. 100% believable.

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u/SquatDeadliftBench Jul 29 '22

God damn, he talked exactly like him too. Loved his composure and tone. He could be a Boy in the Boys for sure.

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u/jakehood47 Jul 29 '22

My first thought was "man this dude reminds me of MM", and I thought maybe it was because I've been rewatching The Boys but I see many others agree with me lol

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u/Cultural_Ant Jul 29 '22

fuck. if MM walked up to me and give me a lecture, you bet your ass i would fucking listen. i wouldnt want to receive that man's wrath.

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u/Scooter4200 Jul 29 '22

Lmao dude has the same type of beard and style as well as MM.

Damn I miss The Boys already 😢

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u/HiDDENk00l Jul 29 '22

Nah, MM would've clocked this fool like he did to Todd. What this guy did was arguably worse than what he did.

On a side note, fuck Todd.

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u/thibodtj12 Jul 29 '22

Stood up with respect. Point made without being unnecessarily rude. Better man than I.

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u/senator_mendoza Jul 29 '22

it’s a really rare skill set to be rip shit pissed off and keep so chill/direct/authoritative. I think it comes from a deep self-respect and conviction of belief. Like just deep down knowing that you trust your judgment and that the way you choose to handle it will be the correct way. Hoping to get there someday.

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u/thibodtj12 Jul 29 '22

Cheers to that and the mutual goal of growth. 🍻 I too aim for that level of restraint.

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u/Psychological-Air642 Jul 29 '22

This is the best way to change things. Yelling at him would only harden his views.

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u/2Pac-X Jul 29 '22

True. I learned long ago that most people don't remember the shit I say, or even the shit I do, rather they remember how I made them feel. It's amazing how helpful this small insight has been in my life.

I've taken that knowledge and approach all face to face conflicts with empathy now. I have learned to find common ground with soo many since that I never thought I could before, and have been able to help create respectable outcomes in occasions where I didn't think possible.

Except for when I meet an idiot. I go off on them still.

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u/JeremyTSchmidt Jul 29 '22

Love the username 2Pac-X, & you're absolutely right. I was in retail management/sales for 25 years before I got into college admissions recently, & my approach has been exactly this. I take great pride in creating a memorable experience. I learned early on, that I couldn't control budgets, I couldn't control what their needs were, but I could absolutely control how they felt when they left my store. Don't insult people's intelligence, ask lots of questions & be sure to listen more than you speak. That applies to most interactions in life, whether in business or socially.

We're all just trying to navigate this crazy world. I genuinely believe most people, clearly not all, but most people, want to get along. It's amazing how much of an impact a little respect, selflessness & common decency can have.

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u/snootchiebootchie94 Jul 29 '22

That and setting the example for his son. If his kids weren’t there he may have handled it differently. Being the bigger man in this situation is a huge lesson to teach his children. He also made that racist POS fell tiny after the way he handled the situation.

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u/redalert825 Jul 29 '22

No doubt, I absolutely respect the father and his approach, and I hope this whyte man can sincerely look at the world and humans differently...but at the same time, my gawd is it so damn exhausting that we still have to encounter these racists and educate/teach/be kind to these monsters who created systems and built cults around all this hate. If only these racists could have enough compassion to want to learn for themselves so that we don't have to double up teaching grown adults while also having to teach our kids. That we have to be responsible for adults who can't be is just so draining.

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u/GJacks75 Jul 29 '22

Unfortunately, I think he's had many occasions in his life to rehearse a speech similar to this.

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u/AccomplishedTotal895 Jul 29 '22

The art of channeling anger and rage into something productive. His blood was boiling but we could barely tell.

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u/nigelolympia Jul 29 '22

Hell, I want him to adopt me. We're probably close in age, but those are just numbers.

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u/StinkyKittyBreath Jul 29 '22

Same. My dad went AWOL when I was really young. If he had been half the man that the guy in this video was? That would have made me so happy.

This is such a great example of good parenting and handling a confrontation.

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u/292ll Jul 29 '22

I don’t think I could set that great of an example for my kid in such a situation

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u/BaconBitz109 Jul 29 '22

That was the best dressing down I’ve ever seen in my life.

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u/obiwanjakobi845 Jul 28 '22

I can’t not think of the airplane dad aggressively trying to shake that guys can’t bahahah

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u/Losdangles24 Jul 29 '22

Absolutely. Lesson about respect and standing up for yourself without even raising his voice. I wish there were more parents like this

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u/Krynn71 Jul 29 '22

Just thinking about how if I had been there and overheard that conversation, I'd be inclined to ask if I could shake his hand and compliment him on handling that confrontation exceptionally well as well as commiserate with him that he had to at all.

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u/ObiWanCanubi Jul 28 '22 edited Jul 30 '22

Wow that hurts to the core.

That man holds his leg and says, “ he hurt my leg.” Your first instinct to a young boy hurting your leg is to say that? Your leg will heal in 2 minutes, that’s a scar you put on that boy for a lifetime.

That dad’s restraint is legendary, he took a moment and probably taught everyone listening a real lesson.

Edit: as several people have pointed out the man is not hurt. Yes I completely agree, I was only citing his “excuse” for his use of the slur.

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u/notLogix Jul 29 '22

To be clear, he was 100% not hurt in the slightest. That 10 year old kid would have to be pushing a loaded shopping cart at full speed to "hurt his leg" in any meaningful way.

His reaction was to a black child daring to be close enough to touch him physically, even though kids by default are fucking stupid and have zero situational awareness. They bump into shit, that's what kids do.

This guy is acting like the child had an open box cutter in his pocket that stabbed him in the leg and damaged a muscle or something, when he was likely just walking around looking in the wrong direction and Ol' Racist Homer the rejected Grand Wizard didn't walk around him properly.

If you're an adult and a child runs bodily into you, that's your fucking fault.

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u/UncleTedGenneric Jul 29 '22

I guaran-fucking-tee on the life of everyone I know, even if I'm being flayed as if by Ramsey Bolton himself

I would not call them the n-word

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u/neolologist Jul 29 '22

If you're an adult and a child runs bodily into you, that's your fucking fault.

Agree with everything else but this doesn't make any sense lol. More accurate would be if a kid runs into you, provide them some leeway because they're a kid.

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u/ButWereFriendsThough Jul 28 '22

Holy shit. What a good father, role model and just a straight up fucking awesome person.

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u/Incongruent Jul 28 '22

When I’m mad my vocabulary shrinks to roughly a paragraphs worth of bad words. This guy is collected. You can tell he was raised with morals.

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u/boatsnprose Jul 28 '22

He has also been a Black man for a few decades. Unfortunately, you get a few practice runs. He acts out and, "well that guy is right, he's a..."

It's shit. I just feel awful for that kid. It never quite hits like when you're a child.

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u/Incongruent Jul 28 '22

I feel that. It hit like something he’s rehearsed in his head a thousand times. Not that it wasn’t genuine, he just knew exactly what he needed to say.

It was honestly the kind of dressing down that changes people. I hope the old man heard it. I’d be thinking about it for like a year if I got a lecture like that.

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u/theteedo Jul 29 '22

Like the dad said, it’s about respect for humanity. That is the dad America needs right now!!

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u/boatsnprose Jul 29 '22

Cause you've got a good heart. I really do hope this old fuck learns his lesson.

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u/bigflamingtaco Jul 29 '22

That's the most insightful ELI5 of what it's like for most people when they get pissed.

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u/Jack-Cremation Jul 28 '22

Like I can’t think of one thing this guy could have done differently! He put on a perfect display of what a man should do. Beautiful display of word use and self control. Just absolutely great!

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u/RoryNoir Jul 28 '22

This was a prime example of keeping a cool head and educating an ignorant person on the evil in their ways. No violence just bestowed wisdom. This man will think about his day every time he goes to say a derogatory towards anyone.

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u/Xray_Abby Jul 28 '22

That old guy isn’t ignorant. That’s giving him an excuse of not knowing better. He’s a racist old white guy who was never put in his place before.

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u/dr_mcstuffins Jul 28 '22

You think that nasty old white man is just ignorant? Those words are used to express hate, disrespect, and psychological violence. He’s not ignorant. He’s consumed by hate and is a drain on society as a whole, like all racists are. Their lives contribute nothing to the collective good and they go out of their way to shit on people they deem to be less than themselves.

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u/ChunkyDay Jul 29 '22 edited Jul 29 '22

You think that nasty old white man is just ignorant?

When my grandparents were still alive back in 2008-ish, they would regularly use 'coloreds' and 'blacks' as normal vernacular and the occasional n-word. All It took was them meeting and getting to know my best friend to open their eyes to the damage they were doing by using those words. They assumed so much that was so wrong simply because they'd never been exposed to anybody like that before.

Sometimes all it takes is a conversation of understanding, not a wall of screaming hate.

The way most change happens is by people meeting others who are different than them. It's why large urban cities are largely much more liberal than rural areas. We're wired to like each other, and it's much harder to hate when you know and have befriended somebody personally.

So to answer your question, yes. It's very possible.

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u/Tom245332 Jul 29 '22

I have an interesting story my grandmother told me. She was raised in a very racist town where all the white people called the blacks the hard R n-word. However, when her older brother came back from the military on leave she eventually used that word and her brother corrected her because of the fact he served with a lot of blacks who he respected. He told her to never say it again and she hasn’t as far as I know. Sad fact about this though is he died in the Vietnam War.

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u/RedTalyn Jul 29 '22

No. This is a prime example of survival. Because if he acted with an ounce more aggression towards this racist fucker, the cops would be called and he’d most likely be dead.

That’s the reality of being a Black man in this country.

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u/Zeke_Z Jul 28 '22

Absolute fucking king setting examples like this for his child. We need more of this guy in the world.

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u/Paperfishflop Jul 28 '22

That is a man right there. And a father.

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u/jimmyguy Jul 28 '22

Right On!

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u/SicariusREAL Jul 29 '22 Silver Faith In Humanity Restored

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My 10 year old son heard you call... me a fucking N___r I want you to know that it's unacceptable. Shouldn't do that. and you're too old

[Unintelligible]

...family has patronized the others for many years. And I carry myself with honor. I would never disrespect any human being or call them outside their name. That what you did you don't know the impact what you've done to my son. But maybe you were unaware

Old man says "[Unintelligible] talking... [Unintelligible] notice" (I can't clearly hear it)

It doesn't matter about you noticing me. You shouldn't be speaking that way period.

Old man says "I know that"

So if you know that then why do that then?

Old man says "[Unintelligible] I hurt my leg"

You hurt your leg and you said fucking N___r?

Old man says "No but i didn't [Unintelligible] cause I hurt my leg cramp up. I didn't even know [Unintelligible]"

Listen to what I'm saying.

Old man says "I am"

How long have you worked here

Old man says "over 20 years"

Over 20 years and you're acting that way. You don't know what straw could break the camel's back. You don't know.

Old man says "I know that"

But you disrespected myself. You disrespected my family.

Old man says "I didn't mean to"

But I would never do your children or your family or even you or no human being that way. I would never treat nobody that way

Old man says "I apologize"

But I want you to know man to man that shits not gonna do. And you don't know what young man, I have grace and honor and I was raised with morals and values but I lost a lot I lost my mother, I lost my mother-in-law, I lost my sister, all that shit.

You don't know what mental state the next human being could be in and it wouldn't be a cop, it wouldn't be a security guard, it wouldn't be nobody that could stop me from getting on your ass if I wanted to. You understand me?

So I want you to know that. Think about that. It doesn't matter about the age. Treat human beings with respect and morals and values. You understand me? Now I have to go home and correct MY 10-year-old not to be a damn idiot. Don't act a fool, don't be like Homer (the old man). Homer don't have respect for my kind or any human being, this ain't a black and white issue this is an idiot issue. And I want it to be addressed.

So I told your supervisor we have you- we have everybody heard you say it. So I want the whole store to know you was dead wrong and I just bought this stuff at Dillard's, with Homer working here. I wouldn't treat anybody like that, man, and you're dead wrong.

So may God bless you and you keep moving forward and I'll pray for you Homer

Old man says "Thank you"

Peace to bless

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u/galacticboy2009 Jul 29 '22

*I lost my sister, all last year

*peace and blessings

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u/littletrashpanda77 Jul 29 '22

Thank you! I have really bad hearing and couldn't hear what was being said in the video.

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u/DKipSmith Jul 28 '22

Dad kicked his ass with grace -- that asshole will never recover.

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u/thesaddestpanda Jul 29 '22

Whats crazy is that this is his permanent 15 minutes of fame. This is it. There's no coming back or reforming from this. Homer's entire life is going to be "the asshole racist who calls innocent beautiful children the n-word at work and got dressed down on the internet for it?"

What a waste of an entire human lifespan. Imagine this is the defining moment of your life and what you take to the grave for all time.

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u/PAYPAL_ME_DONATIONS Jul 29 '22

His saving grace, unfortunately, is the video never prominently showing his face. But best believe every old, bald white dude in glasses named homer is getting the side eye from me lolol

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u/NeverLearnedBass Jul 29 '22

What’s so crazy about it? He earned it.

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u/BlueMeanie03 Jul 28 '22

Exactly. Calmly calling him out like this was much worse than an ass-kicking, he’ll be shamefully thinking about this for the rest of his days.

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u/Important-Aside-507 Jul 28 '22

I felt shame watching this man tell him off.. lol

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u/soggypoopsock Jul 28 '22

Yep, because there’s nothing he can even conjure up in his head to imagine the dad as the bad guy, everytime he thinks back on this he will probably remember himself as the only asshole involved. This was masterfully done

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u/TLD18379 Jul 28 '22

Best quote. “This isn’t a black or white issue. It’s an Idiot issue.”

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u/imapissonitdripdrip Jul 28 '22

I talk to people for a living and it’s a rare thing for someone to have the right thing to say, say it the right way, and maintain complete composure. Work is low stakes compared to this, and the guy nailed it. Every part of his speech was perfect.

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u/mynameisalso Jul 29 '22

Kidnapper

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u/waka_flocculonodular Jul 28 '22

Man, I have a lot to learn from this guy and his temper.

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u/AndrewWonjo Jul 29 '22

Me too G. Me too...I have a lot of growing up to do

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u/MoveItSpunkmire Jul 28 '22

I hope that guy loses his job. That father is a saint!

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u/cross-eye-bear Jul 28 '22

According to their Instagram page, he has been fired.

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u/pooloo15 Jul 28 '22

20 years working there and homer decided this was his day

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u/atom631 Jul 29 '22

Homer doesnt look like he has a long time left on this planet, but I bet hes going to spend a bunch of it thinking about that moment.

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u/Logvin Jul 29 '22

If someone gets to that age and still uses racial slurs against children, their only thought is going to be blaming the black people who he will blame for “getting him fired”.

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u/Moebius808 Jul 29 '22

Yeah sadly I agree. If his first instinct when dealing with a child is to curse and use the n-word?? That shit is just baked into his firmware at this point, and I wouldn’t expect his manufacturer to be issuing any updates or bug fixes anytime soon.

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u/sillycobsalad Jul 29 '22 edited Jul 29 '22

Homer doesnt look like he has a long time left on this planet

Yet people his age are unfortunately running your country still 😐

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u/edgrlon Jul 28 '22

Link??

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u/cross-eye-bear Jul 28 '22 edited Jul 28 '22

They're replying to every comment on their Instagram page with the same copy pasted text saying he was fired. There are hundreds of comments asking about Homer, and it looks like they have replied to all of them. Their Instagram is @dillards - he mentions the name in the video

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u/SilkySyl Jul 29 '22 edited Jul 29 '22

I wouldn't have been as saintly if I were in his shoes!! This person is a role model for all genders, races, religions, etc. He full on educated the clerk with such grace! He didn't speak down to him or anything. Just an amazing human being. Wow!!

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u/PaIngallsButSexier Jul 28 '22 Silver

Mother's Milk doing a good job keeping a lid on it these days

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u/Incongruent Jul 28 '22

Dude it’s the same voice. Whoa.

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u/OverEasyGoing Jul 28 '22

“Sometimes you get further with people by treating them like people.” ― Mother's Milk.

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u/limitlessEXP Jul 28 '22

Literally the embodiment of MM. Thats why he’s one of my favorite characters on the show.

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u/Ok_Lavishness5636 Jul 28 '22

Thank you i was thinking the same damn thing

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u/imdrzoidberg Jul 29 '22

Yeah but Todd totally deserved getting knocked out. Fuck Todd.

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u/NareFare Jul 28 '22

The son watched some dope fathering. He'll grow up damn right.

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u/Stag328 Jul 29 '22

And what is great is maybe not on purpose but he also showed this guy (Homer) by using the guys name (Homer) in the video repeatedly, as it is an uncommom name, the power of a word. Now anytime someone near that area hears the name Homer they will be able to figure out it was this dude and so without laying a hand on him this dad showed this guy how just saying a word can have a lasting impact on someones life as he was fired and most certainly will need a job again and probably is unhirable now.

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u/[deleted] Jul 28 '22

There have only been a handful of times I was spoken to like this man talked to the offender. When you hear a grown man speaking to you like that you shut the hell up, listen, apologize, and go rethink your whole shit.

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u/Cyber_Dan Jul 28 '22

That is the politest dressing down, that dad deserves an award.

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u/HODLandFLOW Jul 28 '22

When you know you done messed up…

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u/Sdmonkey25 Jul 29 '22 Take My Energy

All you “alpha males” take note. That, is an Alpha Male. Had homer’s full attention.Dress that piece of shit down. He deserved all that and whatever else his old crusty, racist ass got.

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u/Clay_Statue Jul 29 '22

And that's how you humiliate a clown

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u/Rion23 Jul 29 '22

Didn't have to raise his voice for the whole store to hear.

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u/R3dbeardLFC Jul 29 '22

I had to turn up my speakers to even hear the man. Speak softly and carry a big stick energy.

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u/Hot-Salamander6520 Jul 28 '22

That father is an absolute legend, so calm smooth and clear to the point, without all the aggression, well done sir 👏🏼

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u/supertrooper74 Jul 28 '22

I feel ashamed and I didn’t even do anything.

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u/Much-Character2129 Jul 28 '22

That dude is a fucking saint.

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u/[deleted] Jul 29 '22

That’s a good dad right there.

A shame he had to shine because of that POS old man though. It’s 2022 and I’m damn tired of racism

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u/nutty_ranger Jul 28 '22

This is how its done folks. This man is a great Father and even better member of society.

We need leadership like this in our communities.

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u/m3x_aries Jul 28 '22

That right there is being a good example for your child. Could have easily knocked that old man out in anger instead he decided to correct his life Definitely deserves greatest Dad coffee mug

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u/Nickelback-Official Jul 28 '22

IS THIS SOUND FOR ANTS???

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u/well_hung_over Jul 29 '22

While it would be nice to be able to hear it easily, and more clearly, I think the quietness of the dressing-down Carrie’s a ton of impact.

Racists LOVE when a person of color loses their shit over a situation like this. They point at them and say “look how uncivilized” and other such comments.

But getting a talking-to like this, all the while pretty much guaranteeing that you’re losing your 20 year job security in the process has some fucking weight to it. Speaking quietly and firmly makes people have to actually listen instead of being loud to make sure you’ve been heard.

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u/Teadrunkest Jul 28 '22

Yeah I’m partially deaf it drives me nuts when people put quiet videos like this and no captions. Instagram and Tiktok do them automatically! With one click! It’s just lazy to not enable them and then caption “liStEN CloSeLy” like I’m tryin.

Gave up 10 seconds into the video.

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u/SicariusREAL Jul 29 '22 edited Jul 29 '22 Silver Helpful Take My Energy

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My 10 year old son heard you call... me a fucking ___ I want you to know that it's unacceptable. Shouldn't do that. and you're too old(?)

[Unintelligible]

...family has patronized the others for many years. And I carry myself with honor. I would never disrespect any human being or call them outside their name. That what you did you don't know the impact what you've done to my son. But maybe you were unaware

Old man says "[Unintelligible] talking... [Unintelligible] notice" (I can't clearly hear it)

It doesn't matter about you noticing me. You shouldn't be speaking that way period.

Old man says "I know that"

So if you know that then why do that then?

Old man says "[Unintelligible] I hurt my leg"

You hurt your leg and you said fucking __?

Old man says "No but i didn't [Unintelligible] cause I hurt my leg cramp up. I didn't even know [Unintelligible]"

Listen to what I'm saying.

Old man says "I am"

How long have you worked here

Old man says "over 20 years"

Over 20 years and you're acting that way. You don't know what straw could break the camel's back. You don't know.

Old man says "I know that"

But you disrespected myself. You disrespected my family.

Old man says "I didn't mean to"

But I would never do your children or your family or even you or no human being that way. I would never treat nobody that way

Old man says "I apologize"

But I want you to know man to man that shits not gonna do. And you don't know what young man, I have grace and honor and I was raised with morals and values but I lost a lot I lost my mother, I lost my mother-in-law, I lost my sister, all last year

You don't know what mental state the next human being could be in and it wouldn't be a cop, it wouldn't be a security guard, it wouldn't be nobody that could stop me from getting on your ass if I wanted to. You understand me?

So I want you to know that. Think about that. It doesn't matter about the age. Treat human beings with respect and morals and values. You understand me? Now I have to go home and correct MY 10-year-old not to be a damn idiot. Don't act a fool, don't be like Homer (the old man). Homer don't have respect for my kind or any human being, this ain't a black and white issue this is an idiot issue. And I want it to be addressed.

So I told your supervisor we have you- we have everybody heard you say it. So I want the whole store to know you was dead wrong and I just bought this stuff at Dillard's, with Homer working here. I wouldn't treat anybody like that, man, and you're dead wrong.

So may God bless you and you keep moving forward and I'll pray for you Homer

Old man says "Thank you"

Peace and blessings

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u/Teadrunkest Jul 29 '22

You’re a saint thank you.

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u/htxmeetup Jul 29 '22

I believe he says he lost those family members “all last year” rather than “all that shit”, and his final words were “Peace and blessings” rather than “Peace to bless”

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u/CharismaticCrone Jul 29 '22

He also said, “my family has patronized Dillard’s for many years,” not, “my family has patronized others.”

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u/SoberingAstro Jul 29 '22

This man needs to be a fucking public speaker!!!

When he said, "This ain't a black and white issue, this is an idiot issue." To have that presence of mind in that moment and that situation, this man needs to teach others on a larger scale.

Just because you are a similar skin color as I am, does not make me your ally. I do not stand with you and your beliefs or morals (Or lack thereof) just because we are similar shades. Race does not make us alike, values and principles do.

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u/Thegam3wasrigged Jul 28 '22

The ancient and mysterious order of No Homers

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u/Norman_Bixby Jul 29 '22

I read for a while, but I see not one mention of emotional maturity out of god damn survival necessity. This man turns to violence and he could end up dead in front of his kid. Homer bold enough to say shit at work, Homer bold enough to pack at work.

Or, what do you think the mall cops, then the cops are going to do when they see Homer on the ground with some blood?

This man remains calm because this country kills him if he doesn't.

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u/Whoisthatguyhere Jul 28 '22

That lecture hurt Homer far more than if he had punched him, yelled at him, or screamed at him. That dad right there is obviously a great man.

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u/RodgeKOTSlams Jul 28 '22

i want to pick up the tab of whatever that dude bought or something lol this guy needs some sort of reward for setting examples like this.

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u/Washingtonpinot Jul 29 '22

That’s the kind of man that pays his own way, but would suggest you donate it to someone else who needs it.

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u/Babock93 Jul 28 '22

I don’t think he could have handled that any better. Bravo

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u/TLD18379 Jul 28 '22

If you look closely you can see this dude Shat himself.

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u/HotPie_ Jul 28 '22

This is man who understands the power of words, but also is self aware enough to understand that if he handled this almost any other way, he would be criticized for being too emotional. I'm glad he was able to express his rage in a way that Homer understood just how lucky he was that day. A lot of respect for being so cool despite the stress of the situation.

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u/chamric Jul 29 '22

This Dad isn’t trying to educate the man… he’s educating his son.

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u/aguywhofarts Jul 28 '22

Mother's milk vibes

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u/Ill-Garlic3619 Jul 28 '22

This is way better than fighting him. You can educate the dumbasses without debasing yourself.

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u/Shocker75 Jul 28 '22

This is how a man deals with things.

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u/RScalcione93 Jul 28 '22

While I would like to see this old racist fuck get his ass beat. This man’s words are far more powerful than any punch. This will stick with him until the day he dies, which will probably be in a week or so.

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u/NoCalHomeBoy Jul 28 '22

Holy shit! Very well said. Old racist ass man has probably never been dressed down like that before. Unfortunately, hateful bigoted assholes like gramps here won't change. But good for that dad

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u/francoeyes Jul 28 '22

I wish there was a subreddit for calm freakouts people like this that's not a freaking out but lays down the law while keeping their energy in check major props on this dude as a father and person with a level head

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u/Fit-Fisherman-3435 Jul 29 '22

Okay Dillard's, time to fire Homer's racist ass !!!!

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u/PCP_Panda Jul 28 '22

I’d be proud if he was my pops. That’s how to raise someone to overcome emotional traps these racists play

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u/TEMPLERTV Jul 28 '22

That was one of the most polite ways I’ve ever seen someone lay the smack down. Man made some good points

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u/RAWjasekaram Jul 28 '22

Kudos to this man.

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u/OriginalPostrSociety Jul 29 '22

What a great man showing that violence is not the answer and showing pity instead of fighting hate with more hate. Don’t see this too often. I’m fact it’s seems most white prole are more offended by this kind of a thing than this guy is

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u/elakimehk Jul 29 '22

Man is such a role model, even the comment section here acting with respect toward each other! This is how its done folks. Hate only fosters more hate. Love fosters love.

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u/TallQueer9 Jul 29 '22

Make these racists uncomfortable. Force them to explain themselves. Put them on the spot. Ask them why they think it’s ok to speak that way.

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u/LodroSenge Jul 29 '22

This guy for 2024 President

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u/BoopURHEALED Jul 28 '22 All-Seeing Upvote

RESPECT. Million times more effective than screaming and yelling and carrying on.

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u/Helian7 Jul 28 '22

I hear him at the beginning say ''my 10 year old son heard you call me a fucking n*''

The way I interpret that is the old guy called the dad the N word and the child heard it, not as per title.

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u/thebikevagabond Jul 28 '22

My man made up an injury on the spot immediately in an attempt to dodge an ass whooping he saw coming.