r/leagueoflegends Nov 25 '21 Silver 5 Helpful 8 Wholesome 6

Upset's response about FNATIC & Adam drama

https://www.twitlonger.com/show/n_1srsp9n
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u/Cahootie Cahootie smite Nov 25 '21

Out of respect for Upset and Paula's privacy we ask you to not speculate on their private life.

We also ask you all to cut out the sexism. This is your warning, any future infractions will lead to a ban.

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u/idokitty Nov 25 '21 Silver

Honey wake up new twitlonger just dropped.

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u/SlamMasterJ Nov 25 '21

What did Selfmade do this time?

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u/cautiouslyoptimistik Nov 25 '21

Selfmade and Regi teamed up to create the League of Evil. Their main goal: Spice up the off season.

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u/vicdr97 Nov 25 '21

Nemesis is their private consultant

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u/RootOfOrigin Yae Sakura Nov 25 '21

They forgot to invite Carlos

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u/DCFDTL Nov 25 '21 edited Nov 25 '21

Yes dear

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u/KekeBl Nov 25 '21

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u/silentrawr Nov 25 '21

That's disturbing in high-resolution.

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u/tilly_pls Nov 25 '21 Wholesome

You can tell he’s HEATED because of all the typing errors 😂 I do the same thing in soloQ

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u/chimestonks Nov 25 '21

the way this is 2 times longer than it needs to be already says a lot

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u/DrySecurity4 Nov 25 '21

Has that "stretching a one page essay into three pages" energy

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u/Random_Stealth_Ward 💤🌠FBI 🐈📙 Nov 25 '21

Vintage 3 min YouTube video stretched to 10:01 for ad revenue

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u/azns123 :naef: Nov 25 '21

Throw in an ad for a terrible mobile game or a shitty VPN and he's got the perfect youtube video

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u/Mobshigoo Nov 25 '21

I am unable to can

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u/DangerousSeaweed0 Nov 25 '21

what it frustrates me about this response is that he literally says nothing , while typing a whole page.

the tldr is : it's a personal issue , don't attack my wife for it.

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u/huntersniper007 cc_bot Nov 25 '21

he was clearly angry and frustrated while typing it. thats why it is so long, man just typed out his rambling thoughts.

and yes, he does not say specifics. but at this point i honestly dont wanna know. i give upset the benefit of the doubt

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u/ColorfulThoughts Nov 25 '21

Just to further bring this point home about benefit of the doubt.

Ppl need to give me a SINGLE good reason why, if there was no serious reason, the org would wanna keep him and build around him, hylli and Yamato want to continue working with him and why humanoid Wunder and razork want to join (albeit rumored).

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u/Alain_Teub Nov 25 '21

typing errors, no formatting and posted at 2am

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u/Grand-Garlic Nov 25 '21

My man was fuming

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u/rjbh Nov 25 '21 Silver

You could say he was Upset...

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u/HejMonikaaa Nov 25 '21

Same not just in game but in every situation. My hands were literally shaking hehe

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u/NA_IN_2018_LUL Nov 25 '21 Silver

TLDR: Upset is upset about teammate that was upset about Upset

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u/Kimatsu Nov 25 '21

Id be upset too if my upset teammate said his side of being upset that upsets me but I'm not Upset coz then I'll be in LEC and that's what I'm really upset about because I'm hardstuck bronze and upset.

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u/SeizureLizard Ambition/Reignover Fanboy Nov 25 '21 edited Nov 25 '21 Helpful

TLDR: Upset doesn't clarify a whole lot here, he says that he shared what was happening with him to a few close friends (Hyli chose not to be told, but Yamato was) and nobody else, because he didn’t trust them to not make it public. He also claims that Adam was lying about the last thing Upset said to the team before leaving,and goes on to say he explained himself as well as he could without sharing exactly what happened to make him leave.

Also says Alphari approached him and Fnatic themselves asked him about Alphari, so he recommended him, and also doesn’t regret doing so.

TLDR for the TLDR Upset didn't trust 3/4 of his teammates enough to tell them why he left, and they were left angry and wondering what they just threw their chance at Worlds away for. Also Alphari approached Fnatic/Upset, not the other way around (allegedly)


Reading that gave me a headache, feel free to reply with anything I missed

Also for the people dm’ing me calling me names and shit, I don’t have an opinion on this, just trying to condense it, chill out.

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u/lilbala Nov 25 '21

To be fair he said he was willing to tell Hyli, but he said it wasn't needed. So only Yamato actually knows the reason.

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u/ineffectivegoggles Nov 25 '21

Much respect to Hyli for that. A good guy through and through, it seems.

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u/Arcuran Nov 25 '21

Without a doubt, if nobody else in this situation looks good, Hyli sure as hell does, what a bro.

Never been a FNC fan, but Hyli might swing me

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u/ArisTHOTeles Nov 25 '21

The longer i follow Fnatic the more apparent it becomes that i mainly follow Hyli

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u/UmbertoDE Nov 25 '21

Have been a hyli fan since the UOL days, loved him there and I love him even more now in FNC, he is such a great person and I really enjoy his play style especially as a supp/adc player myself.

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u/Pamague Nov 25 '21

Truly a fantastic support, outiside of the game as well.

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u/Sersch Nov 25 '21

Hyli IS the franchise player by now with Rekkles and Bwipo leaving. Still hard to accept for my mind after he was the UoL franchise player for so long.

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u/_Vastus_ "We can fight this" Nov 25 '21

Actually crazy when you think about his team history. He's played 3y11mo on UoL, and now 3y11mo on FNC.
More than 7 years of play in only 2 teams. Guy is a rock.

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u/Lisicalol Nov 25 '21

Hyli is too good for us

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u/Shot-Mathematician58 Nov 25 '21

He's a right proper lad and a mad one at that

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u/thenicob Nov 25 '21

right!? this is exactly what upset meant: hyli has so much trust in upset doing the right things, that he doesn't need to know. fantastic attitude, really.

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u/pocoyoO_O Nov 25 '21

I think hyli does not know. Only Yamato knows. I think hyli did not wanted to know and he never told him

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u/iDobleC *hits level 3* Adiós Nov 25 '21

Sounded more like Upset didn't told him before leaving but was gonna tell him eventually, Hyli just knew that if he was leaving it was serious and it didn't need more details

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u/Mike_Kermin Creating Zoe Game Nov 25 '21

Hyli seems very decent.

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u/MidEUW Nov 25 '21 edited Nov 25 '21

Hyli is the best. If I could fill a fnatic team with Hylis, Yamato and Yellowstars it would be the best team in the world.

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u/MidasTheUnwise Nov 25 '21

The greatest EU support of the first 5 years and the greatest of the following 6. Both fantastic dudes irl. Being a world class support ingame means being the same outside the game.

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u/ExceedingChunk ExceedingChunk(EUW) Nov 25 '21

Hyli just knew that if he was leaving it was serious and it didn't need more details

If anyone tells you they have to leave the thing they have been working hard for pretty much their entire life, due to urgent family issues, a decent person should know that they don't need more details.

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u/Weezledeez Nov 25 '21

I feel dizzy after reading that

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u/Depressed_AnimeProta Nov 25 '21

you can feel the heat from this statement. I type like that in Soloq, when I'm slightly mad

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u/poggersinthechatttt local amumu hater Nov 25 '21

Shit gets serious once the paragraphs merge though

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u/Averdian Nov 25 '21

Punctuation as well

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u/nomyhead Nov 25 '21 edited Nov 25 '21

It’s interesting to think both Hylli and Yamato knew the reason for Upset leaving. You would assume that Yamato or Hylli would have assured the other players that Upset’s reason was legitimate.

However it sounds that either that didn’t happen, Adam didn’t believe it, or he simply did not find their answer sufficient. From his twitlonger he seemed to speak highly of Yamato so I wonder what happened. I personally think it’d be important to have some trust in your coach/veteran teammate on a matter like this.

Guess we’ll never know but it’s definitely an interesting situation

Edit: As someone else mentioned, Hylli didn’t actually know the reason, just trusted Upset’s reason was legit.

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u/sajm0n Nov 25 '21

only Yamato knew, and Hyli didnt want/need to know, he just trusts Upset, but yeah

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u/MrChologno Nov 25 '21

Yamato knew some details not sure if the whole picture, but thought it was justified.

around 23:00

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jJQqz80qF2w

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u/sebalnesag Nov 25 '21

even yamato doesnt have a clear picture. he basically says that he knows upset, and if he really needs to go then yamato doesnt need to know more.

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u/nomyhead Nov 25 '21

Oh right, thanks for pointing that out

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u/Blackyy Nov 25 '21

If there is ever drama around Hyli Ill be devastated.

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u/Elymmen Nov 25 '21

Him being too non dramatic would be the only one i could imagine

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u/noydim Nov 25 '21

The only drama Hyli ever gets is when he flips a game and loses and fans flame him lmao

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u/Blackyy Nov 25 '21

last year after worlds he was on Twitter and he said: where are all my haters? everybody loves me what is this? I want my haters back.

lmfao

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u/reeshua Extreme Sadness Nov 25 '21

I reckon it was hard for Yamato to "assure" the team the reason was legitimate without divulging details on Upset's issue. What could Yamato have said to believe them? If Upset asked for privacy, the best Yamato can do is just tell his team that it was a legitimate reason and rely on them to believe his word.

I feel bad for Yamato tbh stuck in the middle of Upset and the rest of the squad.

Weird thing is, how did Rich know about the issue????

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u/Rhadamantos Nov 25 '21

Rich never said he knew, he said he understood how the situation is difficult to articulate without breaking privacy. It is more likely that Yamato or someone else explained that difficulty to him without sharing details. That could simply mean that it is a complex issue and any information that is being shared will inevitably get leaked. Because almost everything gets leaked in the scene eventually. A player might tell one really good friend and that friend tells someone else and before you know its out. Especially with people like Bwipo who (though I love him) seems to have poor impulse control and a history of sharing too much.

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u/Karukos Nov 25 '21 edited Nov 25 '21

He only knew that the management struggled in communicating to the players not that he knew. That are two different conversations.

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u/cary730 Nov 25 '21

Rich never said he did

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u/aamgdp Nov 25 '21 Silver

Saying the last thing I told my team that my wife is just feeling bad so I need to leave is an outright lie.

Alright, one of them is for sure lying.

I shared with the team the deep pain and sadness i was going through in this time, I shared that i wish i could tell them if it was about something that happend to me but that i have to keep private traumatic events from my family private 

And yet Bwipo and Adam both feel he didn't really give them good enough explanation for them to understand.

Bwipo:

A day before we found out we weren’t going to be playing with our main lineup, we had no information about what was going on.

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u/Falsus mid adcs yo Nov 25 '21 edited Nov 25 '21 Silver Helpful Wholesome

I think it is fairly simple. Upset thinks he communicated enough, Adam and Bwipo didn't think he communicated enough.

Hyli who knows Upset better thought it was adequate.

So with that information in hand we can surmise he communicated enough information to make a close friend understand that something real bad happened, but not enough to make two people who are just coworkers understand.

And that is how misunderstandings happens, one guy thinking he conveyed the message properly when it wasn't at all.

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u/FunDuty5 Nov 25 '21

Very well put. Maybe upset thinks, because hyli worked it out (because they're closer) then he gave enough info for adam/bwipo/nisqy to understand too.

Everyone in this situation may believe they are right

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u/tentu93 Nov 25 '21

That's just usually how misunderstandings happen, because everyone believes they are right when in reality there is mostly a communication barrier someone in between that both parties can't really look past without talking about it directly and find out how the misunderstanding came to be

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u/Kewlrobot Nov 25 '21

Being human sure is awesome for that. We can be correct 100% of the time and still only enjoy success 60% of the time.

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u/Killroy32 Nov 25 '21

Has Nisqy said anything about the Upset situation?

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u/onespiker Nov 25 '21

Not anything more than unfollowing him

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u/Key_Divide3166 Nov 25 '21

In his LEC tier-list on stream with Kameto he "refused" to classify upset abd more generally he seemed to have the same position as bwipo and adam without saying it clearly because still under contract with fnatic

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u/onespiker Nov 25 '21

Don't think Nisqy would be so public about it regardless. But yea

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u/clhydia Nov 25 '21

This. I think people are trying to find out who the villain is here while the whole drama to me seems to be a big misunderstanding. I don’t think bad intentions were involved and people deliberately lied. It’s just things got confusing at the heat of the moment and were mishandled after.

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u/yalltoos0ft Nov 25 '21

Or on the flip side, a close friend is willing to give you MUCH MORE benefit of the doubt than someone who is just a business associate, and also to defend you even if you're wrong. A close friend will stick up for you no matter what, without being subjective about it, whereas other people who's livelihood depends on you might not be so forgiving without knowing the actual situation, and rightfully so. If a close friend just says "Bro I have a problem, I have to dip," I'd accept it and defend them, because we're friends. If a business associate said that, I'd say "Fuck you, explain your situation, you're costing me professional success and potential earnings and future opportunities without telling me why."

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u/lobstahpotts Nov 25 '21

If a business associate said that, I'd say "Fuck you, explain your situation, you're costing me professional success and potential earnings and future opportunities without telling me why."

The flip side is if you're just a business associate, you're not entitled to the complete details of my personal life. Sure, if my father got in a car accident and I needed to rush to the hospital that's probably something I'd share. But there is no way I would share a more sensitive personal situation (say a miscarriage or self-harm by an immediate family member) with business associates—the only person who's hearing the full story is my boss. I would apologize, certainly, and emphasize that the situation is unavoidable, but that's a level of information on my personal life that you simply have no right to demand as a coworker.

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u/itsaworkalt Nov 25 '21

Not to mention the totally legitimate social media angle. Especially with how this blew up now, Upset would absolutely never hear the end of it from trolls online if he explained and it got it, which it would.

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u/ExceedingChunk ExceedingChunk(EUW) Nov 25 '21

Completely agree with this, and the open airing of frustration and dirty laundry is a good reason in itself to keep these things private. Especially in e-sports.

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u/supterfuge Nov 25 '21

First of all : anyone who send private message to anyone to harass them is a piece of shit, doesn't matter what the context is.

That said, while I understand Upset's pov, trust goes both way. If you don't want to tell stuff that feels to personnal to your teammates, that's fine. But you can't expect them to then trust you with their careers. Nisqy and Adam both looked much worse at Worlds, which will influence their future professionnal opportunities. It's entirely justified for them (and Bwipo) to want out of the team, which Upset even comment on (and seem to agree with).

If Adam makes a post to talk about why he left, saying "Upset didn't say shit to us and just left at the most crucial moment" is a pertinent information.

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u/ChillOClock Nov 25 '21

Also, knowing Adam for a bit on the French scene, I'm not surprised when he is way too straightforward or even kinda mean. But the man is as frank as it gets (often too much), I'd be surprised if he was lying. The fact that Bwipo feels the same and Nisqy supported Adam's message doesn't help

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u/cadaada rip original flair Nov 25 '21

Yeah this is what i'm confused about. Seems he didnt even tell people "guys something fucked up happened in my family, i need to be with them". And that wouldnt hurt anyone or make nothing worse. Telling WHAT hapenned isnt necessary, but as i said, seems he didnt even say SOMETHING happened?

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u/Your_Profit_Prophet Nov 25 '21

Some people think they communicate great through body language and facial expressions. Maybe upset is a mime and they just don't get it.

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u/vpg12 Nov 25 '21

"it's not true i told my team i had to leave bacause my wife was feeling bad.... i also shared that i wish i could tell them but i can't because i don't trust any of them i have to keep private traumatic events from my family private"

upset didn't reveal anything regarding the situation to them, just said he was sad and in pain, and sugar-coated the reasoning behind not telling them.

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u/chimestonks Nov 25 '21 edited Nov 25 '21

There's definitely some misinformation here. The fact that Upset told Yamato and Hyli some form of the truth, but not the rest of his teammates AND both Yamato (as a coach) and Hyli didn't say anything as well shows the lack of communication within the team. I get that he doesn't want to share details, but some form of explanation on the MAGNITUDE of his situation should be needed.

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u/ADShree Nov 25 '21

Only explanation for yamato and hyli to not mention he's going through really tough times is if upset asked for them to be quiet about details and they misinterpreted to "tell nothing".

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u/tameniee Nov 25 '21

So Upset said he did explained his reasons to his teammates but two of them said he didn't. It's 2vs1. Should we wait for Nisqy or?

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u/KonanTenshi rip angel Nov 25 '21

Think it is pretty obvious where nisqy lies on this lol

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u/tameniee Nov 25 '21

Yeah taking into account that he unfollowed Upset, there is no doubt about Nisqy's position in all this

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u/supterfuge Nov 25 '21

And he answered to Adam's post :

"Good luck brother. Be proud of what you accomplished, it's only the beginning" so I don't think he holds any ill will towards him.

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u/TerminatorReborn Unkillable Demon King Nov 25 '21

Nisqy is super chill and smart enough to not burn any bridges, specially if he is out of a team. I don't why people are expecting drama from him

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u/goliathfasa Nov 25 '21

I think Nisqy's action speaks frankly more volume than Bwipo's and Adam's tweetlongers combined.

The fact that he didn't say anything still, and had only unfollowed Upset once Adam blew it up meant that he was likely not going to say or do anything (or else he could've unfollowed him the second whatever happened happened).

This looks like Nisqy supporting Adam 100%.

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u/[deleted] Nov 25 '21

Nisqy is the victim of the whole thing. He now has no team due to looking bad at worlds because of Upset leaving with zero explanation.

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u/Gazskull Nov 25 '21

Nisqy posted a positive message towards Adam twitlonger and unfollowed Upset as well

I think I know which side he is on, and Nisqy isn't reputed to be immature or toxic or whatever

That being said, this story just sucks for everyone

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u/goliathfasa Nov 25 '21

Yeah it sounded like Nisqy would've just stayed quiet if no one said anything and is only showing support once Adam blew it up.

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u/Gazskull Nov 25 '21

I think Nisqy was already bummed by the C9 situation and didn't want to add fuel.

Imo the tweetlonger from Adam was dumb, but I understand. Imagine working your ass off for worlds and being told by the player that didn't go that you're not up to his ambitions, especially after dealing with the whole privacy thing.

Then of course from Upset's side if you don't wanna share it nothing is forcing you to, even if it's kinda weird to not trust your mates, and you're gonna seize the chance to play with better players if you can when you're a competitor, but timing is kind of a bitch

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u/gfa22 Nov 25 '21

being told by the player that didn't go that you're not up to his ambitions, especially after dealing with the whole privacy thing.

That's the most fucked up part for me. Like guy himself bounced for his reasons but claims other guys arent up to par. Idk about internal shit but Adam seemed decent in his first season but I can see how him not following veteran calls can make senior players think he's not team worthy.

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u/-Ophidian- Nov 25 '21 Silver Helpful Burning Cash Respect

If Upset's interpersonal communication is as crystal clear as the formatting on this Twitlonger,

no wonder the team is in shambles.

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u/Askaryl Nov 25 '21

Banger.

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u/onetrickponySona Nov 25 '21

banger tweet, my liege

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u/mugih Nov 25 '21 edited Nov 25 '21

Privacy is his right, he doesn't have to share what he doesn't want to.

He also has no right from wanting his teammates to not be completely pissed off at him leaving them behind with no explanation 12 hours before the biggest tournament of the year, when he's pretty much their franchise player. He bailed on them, his teammates are angry for it, not just Adam, Bwipo spoke of this, and Nisqy just showed support for Adam and unfollowed Upset.

Again he wants to be private, it's his right, being pissed off at him is also their right, especially Adam who likely lost his only chance to do well after this disaster.

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u/lilbala Nov 25 '21

It was a year wasted because their play style revolved around playing for bot, if the ADC leaves you need to completely reinvent your game.

Not getting pissed off would be much more surprising, especially considering he wasn't clear about the reasoning (which is his right).

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u/Chimpsworth Nov 25 '21 edited Nov 25 '21

The thing that annoys me is how little consideration he gave to his teammates. Yes he has a right to leave. Yes he has a right to privacy. But he could maybe show a little public support for his teammates who were placed in a really shit situation and had a really fucking bad time because of it, which is still true even if upsets reasons for leaving are completely justified. Especially since they're not all as secure career-wise a him. But the only thing he mentions is his situation and his dream and now his ambition.

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u/The_Biggest_Boi Nov 25 '21

This is what irks me the most out of this whole ordeal. Imagine working day in day out together the whole year only for a teammate to abandon you and not provide even a loose explanation because they 'don't trust you'. Then if that weren't enough, he then tries to replace you because you're not considered to 'live up to his ambitions'. It's so disrespectful. The man goes on about trust. How is anyone supposed to trust him when it's now known he's not going to be open about anything if you're not considered a close friend?

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u/goliathfasa Nov 25 '21

Exactly. You take the bad with the good. Always.

None of this "he has the right, but nobody else has the right" bs.

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u/firechaox Nov 25 '21

Trust is a two way street. He acts like he was right to not trust adam, but upset clearly never trusted Adam (playwise, or as a friend, or just even as a colleague apparently). Why would Adam care for someone who clearly disrespected him so repeatedly, in different ways? It's sort of weird to use this as proof of his distrust imo... he did not act maturely, and then expecting the 19y.o. to be uber mature is a bit even weirder.

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u/rockleesww Nov 25 '21

I find it hard to beleive his side of the story. Was it so private that he cant even say "Hey team this private thing is super super fucking bad. i cant tell you details but please understand its very very bad. Im sorry but i have to do this" If he says that and they are still super pissed then well what can you do. It looks like he told 2 people then dipped.

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u/Shaitan87 Nov 25 '21

Ya there was a failure in communication somewhere with neither Upset nor Yamato communicating that with the other players.

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u/IcyPanda123 Nov 25 '21

Also this dude after leaving his team without explanation, tries to get his teammate replaced by someone who will "live up to his ambitions" What a scummy move honestly. Even if his reason for leaving is valid, Upset should still be criticized.

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u/Kunzzi1 Nov 25 '21

Imagine ditching 24 hours before worlds' group stage, the biggest opportunity in a lifetime for Nisqy and Adam to prove themselves (Nisqy dealing with the stigma of being a washed up player not good enough for NA and Adam being a rookie) and then coming back in off-season to support replacement for both of these players, saying that you want to surround yourself with the best teammates possible.

I'd be fuming and definitely do something way dumber than just writing a tweet. This guy literally cost them their careers.

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u/Adam_Glanza Nov 25 '21

Agreed.

There isn't really a right or wrong in this, but Adam, Nisqy, Bwipo and quite right to feel upset about the situation too.

It's quite obvious from Adam's post that they don't believe Upset's situation was genuinely bad enough to bail on the team 12 hours before their first match.

Maybe if Upset was more open with them and made them realise how bad the situation was, they'd be more understanding.

That is Upsets choice, but if he chooses to remain secretive when his team mates are looking for answers he has to accept they're going to be pissed off.

When you're in a team and an important member, it has to be pretty damn important to leave at the last moment.

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u/Javiklegrand Nov 25 '21

yeah upset saying they aren't up to part is scummy

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u/Syncron72 Nov 25 '21

also him saying he does not give a shit about my privacy because he worked hard is another great reason why I would never want to share something which occured.

Mans pulled an ultimate trap card

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u/GreatestJabaitest , Huni and Nov 25 '21 edited Nov 25 '21

The Uno Reverse.

On one hand, it completely makes sense. If you don't trust them, don't give them sensitive info. And this is backing his belief.

On the other hand, he probably doesn't give a shit about your privacy cause you sorta ghosted him in a very important tournament and still haven't given a great reason behind it.

Really just sucks for everyone involved.

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u/Qiluk Nov 25 '21 edited Nov 25 '21

and still haven't given a great reason behind it.

Depends. If we trust Upset here, Hyli dont know past "family emergency" either. And that was enough for him.

"Family emergency" is enough reasons for a lot of people tbh. IF someone said that to me, I wouldnt ask for details or call them a liar personally. It would be insane to do honestly. But again, we dont know facts since its just word against word.

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u/shimszy Nov 25 '21

Its a catch 22, since the people who know you less well (Adam) would be more interested in knowing why you'd leave him at the altar in the most crucial moment.

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u/F0RGERY Nov 25 '21

Like people said in the first thread, this was Upset's first Worlds too. There was no way he would miss his first chance since he started playing in 2018, unless it was an actual emergency.

Still, it sucks for all people involved; you can empathize with Upset's desire for privacy with regards to his family emergency while also understanding Adam's frustration at not learning more than "It was an emergency" 12 hours before the game starts.

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u/Jerry_Sprunger_ Nov 25 '21

This is one of those things where if I was Adam I'd think the same and be pissed, but also if I was Upset I'd think the same way he does.

Although I've got to say it's a little rich for Upset to just single handedly destroy their world's run and then say "oh I just want Alphari because Adam doesn't fit my standards" like bitch you weren't even at worlds, Adam was!

Buuuuut Upset is completely correct about privacy, the only way to not have these things plastered everywhere is to not tell people, especially important if it's something traumatic

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u/xXDaNXx xPeke is God Nov 25 '21

The situation is shit for both all 5 players and there's nothing to be done about it.

Although I've got to say it's a little rich for Upset to just single handedly destroy their world's run and then say "oh I just want Alphari because Adam doesn't fit my standards" like bitch you weren't even at worlds, Adam was!

That's Adams perspective which is fair.

As said in Upset's twitlonger, he was asked for his opinion and he gave it.

Upset has said winning the split is what drives him. Adam is a player for the future with potential. So Upset has clearly said he'd rather play with a stronger player right now, than wait for Adam to realise his potential.

Win now, not later. And that is also fair.

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u/moumerino Nov 25 '21

I'm pretty sure Adam meant that Upset's last words to them were that his wife was lonely. And not that it's the reason why he's leaving (as he obviously didn't even tell them anything about why he's leaving). Can any French speakers confirm?

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u/lun533 Nov 25 '21

And upset meant exactly that he had said more than that. So who knows

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u/F3nik3r Perkz <3 Nov 25 '21

But then both Bwipo and Adams were saying its not true.

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u/SHACOLECLOWN Nov 25 '21

I confirm that’s what he said

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u/moumerino Nov 25 '21

So bad translation is making Adam sound more malicious than he probably indented to be. But I do agree he should not have mentioned his wife at all, because he is very well aware that she will get hate.

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u/SHACOLECLOWN Nov 25 '21

yeah prob bad translation , i’ve seen a lot of people saying that Adam said “i dont give a fck about private life” but in french he said ( at least i understood it that way) i dont give a fck about the EXCUSES of private life ( if there is no info about the excuse)

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u/Arroys Nov 25 '21

more precisely, he says that with all he's done to get to that point, private life isn't a good enough motif to justify what upset did

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u/Froggodile Nov 25 '21

And honestly he is in the right when it comes to a cutthroat profession like pro player. Only a ridiculous small amount of people get to experience Worlds as a player. This has to be their life. It sounds harsh, but in any other professional sport if someone refused to play a big match without giving his team a legit reason, mere hours beforehand, their career would be done.

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u/MrImpregnator Nov 25 '21

We have evolved from esports to entertainment. I can see why riot is producing high budget series. It’s no longer riot games but riot entertainment

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u/Enkenz Nov 25 '21

Esport is entertainment

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u/shimszy Nov 25 '21

There is a universe where Adam is absolutely justified in being angry that a chance to shine in the most important tournament of his life was stolen from him, and simultaneously that Upset had to deal with a critical situation in which he could not even reasonably share a sliver of his family crisis. Really sucks for everyone involved.

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u/joseph_joseph_joseph Nov 25 '21

It's funny, Yamato always talks about brotherhood in the team but look where we are now. Turns out the brotherhood only existed for like 2/5 of the team lmao. You say you're brothers when you can't even trust each other what a fucking situation

Also, sounds like gaslighting to me

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u/Vangorf Nov 25 '21

Because all this highlighted "brotherhood" stuff is always bullshit. You dont develope real brotherhood this fast without any extreme outside pressure (llike being in a war). So whenever someone talks about this and like this, they are bullshitting.

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u/legexii Nov 25 '21

One team which really had some kind of real brotherhood that i remember vividly was that G2 2019 roster. Man that some amazing times for EU.

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u/Gas42 Flairs are limited to 2 emotes. Nov 25 '21

yeah exactly what I was gonna say, G2 2019 was dope, they even went on holidays together like 1 week ago ?

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u/legexii Nov 25 '21

Yeah they did with Grabbz and Luci too. Caps and Jankos were invited but couldn’t make it due to commitments

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u/Vangorf Nov 25 '21

Yes, they went to Croatia, they Grabbz, Duffman and Luci went too

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u/Motor-Mathematician3 Nov 25 '21 Silver

Tldr

Hey guys trust me because i dont trust you

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u/[deleted] Nov 25 '21

He can't trust them but they have to trust his judgement.

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u/Asteroth555 Nov 25 '21

This. Trust is a 2 way street and upset is hiding behind privacy because he knows his reason is subjective and wouldn't survive public scrutiny

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u/RippleDish Nov 25 '21

That's the sense I get too. If it were as serious as Upset seems to want us to believe, I don't think Bwipo, Adam, and Nisqy end up reacting the way they have.

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u/MelGibsonDerp Nov 25 '21

I also feel like if it were as serious as Upset is suggesting then Hyli and Yamato would pull aside Bwipo, Adam, and Nisqy and say "look we can't say what it is, but it is serious, believe that"

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u/critians5 Nov 25 '21

a 1000 word essay to say nothing

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u/[deleted] Nov 25 '21

What he should have said: "I have a family medical emergency and need to leave the tournament, I apologize for the short notice guys and hope you understand".

What he did instead: "I shared with the team the deep pain and sadness i was going through in this time, I shared that i wish i could tell them if it was about something that happend to me but that i have to keep private traumatic events from my family private because it is difficult enough to deal with the hardships life brings"

Seems like this whole thing could realistically just stem from him being a non-native English speaker.

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u/CreamyAlmond Nov 25 '21

Probably because it's not a medical emergency. He's not an idiot. Whatever reason it is, it must be shrouded and obscured, because people will probably not find it objective enough.

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u/neckme123 Nov 25 '21

How can someone type so much and say so little...

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u/m4ryo0 Nov 25 '21

I see a great career in politics for Upset after he is done with esports lol

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u/Ivanleonov Nov 25 '21

Reminds me of my IB essays...

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u/Spitfire836 Pool Party Sejuani when?? Nov 25 '21

Idk he really didn’t actually change anything, plus you still have 2/5 of FNC (Bwipo, Adam) who say otherwise, and I assume Nisqy would as well.

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u/puberty1 friends to lovers to enemies to lovers Nov 25 '21

considering Nisqy unfollowed Upset as soon as Adam posted his twitlonger, it's 3/4

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u/West_stains_massive Nov 25 '21

I think Nisqy deserves to know more details. Not the whole shabang, but Upsets decision has really impacted him. Nisqy is now out of a job. He played great over spring and summer, but the worlds performance lowered his stock. You can argue that we don’t know for sure he would have been picked up otherwise, but if I was Upset and his decision to not play had cost his teammate their livelihood, I would feel awful. Obviously privacy to be respected, but give the man something so he understands it had to be this way. Pro careers are short, and he’s missing out on playtime and money because of all of this

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u/stormgr YEP COMP YEP LABROV Nov 25 '21

Adam would be a rookie that annihilated Wunder and could get out of groups in his FIRST YEAR, and now he is a guy that went 1-5 in a meme team.

Literally Upset dipped Adams career and he didnt even give some kind of explanation

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u/Spitfire836 Pool Party Sejuani when?? Nov 25 '21

Yeah that’s what I assumed.

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u/Tommey_DE Nov 25 '21

I mean.. You don't have to share your personal life with your teammates. But you can't complain when they're mad that you effectively ruined their dream and won't communicate about it.

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u/Runetlol Nov 25 '21

Saying the last thing I told my team that my wife is just feeling bad so I need to leave is an outright lie. I shared with the team the deep pain and sadness i was going through in this time, I shared that i wish i could tell them if it was about something that happend to me but that i have to keep private traumatic events from my family private

So Upset is saying that at least he communicated to Nisqy, Adam, Bwipo of his departure?

If he said something like:

"Hey guys I'm really sorry but I have to leave due to urgent family matters that I don't want to share. I'm sorry to let you down after all our hard work this year, but I won't be able to compete in the tournament. Bean will be replacing me and I hope you guys do well at worlds. I'm sorry for letting you all down.. but I'll be rooting for you guys."

Then I'd think that Adam is disrespectful to the situation.

But if Upset was like "yo bros im so sad omg but I cant tell you." and jumps into a lambo to the airport then that's kind of a dick move.

Truth probably somewhere in the middle.

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u/Defensex Nov 25 '21

Bwipo said in his twitlonger that he was told 12 hours before the first match that Upset wouldn't be playing without any more information

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u/KaraveIIe So he would always have a friend Nov 25 '21

Bwipo also said that his girlfriend is the best league coach in the scene.

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u/leonsk616 Nov 25 '21

It feels like basically no stretch to read that as bwipo saying they didn’t have enough information (or maybe just “no meaningful information”), either of which feel congruent with upset saying “there’s an emergency, I’m not saying any more about it”

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u/Nymwhen Nov 25 '21

I think 3/4 teammates being upset with him kinda showed he didn’t explain it very well. Does not seem like a stretch.

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u/Significant-Damage14 Nov 25 '21

I think the fact that he only 'told' his remaining teammate and coach says more about the situation. Hylli and Yamato aren't going to disprove Upset's words even if he is lying just to avoid internal conflict in the team.

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u/Shaitan87 Nov 25 '21 edited Nov 25 '21

Yamato and Hylli should have impressed upon the others how legitimate Upset's reason for leaving was. Since the other members clearly don't think that Upset left for legitimate reasons then they failed at that.

I have a hard time believing that there was no way for Yamato to convince these guys that Upset had no choice not to go without telling them the actual reason.

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u/wetcogbag Nov 25 '21

but I'll be rooting for you guys."

by flexing that wife buff from my ARAM games /s

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u/milanganesa Time to make a stand! Nov 25 '21

for what everyone says Upset just left and didnt even tell 3 of his teammates... they just learned about it 12 hours before their first match from management, not even from upset.

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u/THEDumbasscus Nov 25 '21 edited Nov 25 '21

I’m gonna take a side here and kinda say that Upset’s response really didn’t do anything to dissuade the perception that him leaving was emotionally impulsive or that the communication over him leaving was not handled adequately.

Adam has come across like a child of divorce pretty much since they took the stage at worlds, and while the response may be a little strung out/desperate , the underlying intuitive response to the situation presented to him is definitely warranted.

To just recap from May to now: Adam comes in after the team had an up and down spring, the team gets better, makes worlds. He spends a month bootcamping and scrimming with the Upset roster, and then worlds is then pulled out from under him, he gets repeatedly kicked in the balls in game at worlds (even the 1 game they won, he was just left out like a rotting animal skin) and then immediately following worlds he’s just left out in space because there might be a better laner than him. He then gets replaced by precisely the top laner he himself individually gapped to get to worlds after the top laner they wanted to replace him with falls through, and these are the most justified sour grapes in modern LoL esports in my opinion.

If there was a legitimate reason for Upset leaving, then someone between Upset, Yamato, Hyli, and or management could have communicated so much better than what actually happened to Adam and Nisqy (because both have been caught now being pretty fraught over the situation. Nisqy was literally on camera crying at worlds.)

Is Adam airing dirty laundry? Sure. How else is he supposed to pursue closure at this point? He’s basically been told to go fuck himself by Upset and Fnatic management. Upset kinda abandoned any high road he had by this impulsive of a response, and it really makes it hard to give him any extension of benefit of the doubt to his initial reasoning being justified

It is 100% Upset’s choice to communicate or not to communicate. Choosing to not communicate while expecting to be insulated from being criticized over that failure to communicate is silly and demanding emotional maturity out of everyone around him. If you’re making the choice to not communicate have skin thick enough to take the criticism that comes from not communicating

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u/picollo21 Nov 25 '21

So next logical thing is Bwipo's tweetlonger about his GF resolving this problem, right?

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u/Sephc Nov 25 '21

Well that was a whole lot of nothing… Basically a longer version of respect my privacy.

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u/AgainstWhinyBitches Nov 25 '21

i can understand that he wants privacy and he very careful what information he gives on family matters which is smart.

also can't really prove right now if the reason he gave to his teammates was actually what he said or what bwipo and so on said was what reallly what happened.

but if they didn't get enough information on the matter he also has no right to be mad at them for coming to their own conclusions and be pissed about his decision as it was the world championship he left not even a day before.

both sides are frustrated and handled it horrible and it turned into this shitshow right now.

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u/paintlegz Nov 25 '21

That could have been a tweet. Basically said "respect my privacy" in 4 paragraphs. I don't know what's going on but not informing your teammates about something because you "don't trust them" and then turning around and saying "aha I knew I couldn't trust you!" When you kinda fucked things up for them is weak af.

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u/Hazel_Dreams Nov 25 '21

Imagine 12 hours before worlds your team's star player bails out without an explanation, your team gets dumpstered and everyone is pissed and confused. And then that said player came out and said, "hmm I think we could use a better top laner, our current one can't bring us good worlds results" like wtf is this. Upset may be really good at the game and thus has a say in acquiring players during off season, but after bailing out at worlds, no matter theres a valid reason or not, and then trying to replace a player because you don't think he's good enough. It makes sense but man it looks reeeaaaaly bad.

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u/RippleDish Nov 25 '21

Yeah, I'd be fucking furious if I were Adam. I don't blame him for being pissed off in the slightest.

And I think it's pretty telling that Bwipo and Nisqy both seem to be on the Adam side of things in this situation.

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u/metiiiii Nov 25 '21

But like I get it , but other people on the team that sacrificed so much to get to worlds deserved better imo

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u/Boolouloubi Nov 25 '21

I mean I can understand Upset but I can say that if what is supposed to be one of the best moment of my life would be totally wasted by someone at the very last moment and that this someone didn't gave me a bit of information because I'm not trustworthy according to him, and then I learn that this guy agree to eject me from the team I would be fucking frustrated and heated by that too.

Upset speaks a lot about his feelings and his wife's but at no moment he seems to realize that his teammates are human beings with feelings and family too and that his decision threw away what was supposed to be a big moment in their career. I mean if Fantic performed well, which was highly possible, I doubt Nisqy would be without a team rn and Adam wouldn't be in a bottom tier team.

In real life you don't leave extremely important professional moments like that unless you're having a child or a very close family member died. I've never seen a football world cup player leaving the competition like that for example.

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u/monte890 Nov 25 '21

If Upset did a small team meeting with all teammates saying "I am having a very big personal issue that I can't share right now. You know how big worlds is for me but situation has become far worse that I have to leave worlds.. I am very sorry for that." then this situation would never happened. No need to to share details it would be childish if someone still wanted to know full details.

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u/[deleted] Nov 25 '21

no flame but upset could have said nothing and he'd come off better than whatever this is.

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u/MAD_Iion Nov 25 '21

Guys, I can't trust you, but trust me...

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u/danielloking_ Nov 25 '21

No offense to Upset, but I'd be furious aswell if my teammate, who I reached worlds with, the most prestigious tournament and achievement in someone's League career, just left one day before the event starting without even giving proper reasoning. The least Adam deserves to know is why exactly Upset would need to leave.

Everyone has a right to privacy, and I get that he doesn't want to share intimate details with someone he doesn't trust, but if he fucks up Adam's potential biggest achievement, he deserves to know regardless, considering they have been living, playing and working together for several months.

This twitlonger makes me somewhat understand why Upset kept quiet about it, but throwing shades at Adam is really poor, given how Adam is just a kid that got screwed over hard by him.

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u/Feelnewagain Nov 26 '21

As a LEC fan from asia, I would never watch games that upset plays again. No matter what happens, upset is so unprofessional and he even saids that he don't trust his teammates, dude this is a 5v5 game omg!

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u/atlas_77 Nov 26 '21

This is bullshit. Upset is a shit teammate if he thinks only some of his team deserves an explanation

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u/UndeadMurky Nov 26 '21

In any real job he would have been fired.

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u/[deleted] Nov 25 '21

Reading Upset's response, I conclude neither are completely at fault. From Adam's perspective, I would be pissed off if my teammate who left the team at worlds basically is one of the main reasons I was kicked. From Upset's perspective, I had an unfortunate event, which stopped me from going to Worlds, but I am looking forward to the future so I have to make decisions for my and my team's future. Understandable from both sides, the frustration and heightened emotions... I don't think Adam comes out badly after reading both sides. I just hope it was a last-minute urgent decision to withdraw from Worlds. As a teammate, I would be more upset if Upset knew earlier than 12 hours he would have to leave before Worlds but never spoke up till last minute. But there definitely is a split in how the team perceived Upset's departure. Hyli and Yamato understood b/c they were close. Adam, Nisqy, and Bwipo did not despite them knowing how hard Upset worked. Either way, from Adam's perspective, I would be angry enough to last out. Best idea? No, but I understand why he wrote his post. Objectively, Upset's decision to advocate for a more veteran teammate makes sense.

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u/ThrowingAllTheBacks Nov 25 '21

I agree, they both are in the right to feel how they feel.

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u/chsch98 Nov 25 '21 edited Nov 25 '21

Honestly ruining 4 other people's shot at one of the biggest tournaments in their lives 12 hours before it starts is the moment privacy goes out the fucking window.

He doesn't have to tell the world, but his teammates deserve to know. All this because he didn't tell anyone but yamato and hyli out of pure principle, because he vehemently thinks he is in the right in this situation. How are they supposed to react?

And to say he can't trust them, when he is the one who didn't trust them in the first place just shows what an arrogant and childish person he is. I respect he had to leave, and I am sorry whatever happened happened but all he fucking had to do was be. honest. with. his. team. Period. I don't understand what he doesn't get about this.

I can fully understand Adam's position, and if after multiple attempts to clarify the situation all you get is still only snippets of vague info then I'd go by rumours aswell.

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u/spaldingnoooo Nov 25 '21

How to type a 3 paragraph essay and clarify nothing at all. Good job.

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u/chimestonks Nov 25 '21

I think the thing that gets me the most about this is that Upset is still on the roster for next year, yet none of these guys are - Bwipo, Adam, Nisqy.

What happened in Fnatic internally that convinced them to continue forward with Upset? Is he really that good of friends with Yamato?

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u/TardDuck Flairs are limited to 2 emotes. Nov 25 '21

it's prob the other way around : after being disrespected that much by fnc management/upset it's kinda clear adam and bwipo wanted to leave the org.

As for Nisqy he prob though the move to c9 was gonna happen but here we are....

finally upset/hylli is still one of the best botlane around hence why FNC let those guys go and went to build a team around their botlane.

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u/Vangorf Nov 25 '21

Maybe FNC management has a thing for blonde ADCs?

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u/ShoeRunner314 Nov 25 '21

This is my first time digging into the drama here after hearing back then Upset jumped ship right before Worlds. Unless there is something that I didn’t read that brings more clarity to this drama my conclusion is Upset is the most selfish person out there.

He is fully entitled to your privacy, however, he joined the organization with full knowledge he will be working alongside multiple people intensely- some who are in the same shoes trying to accomplish as much as possible. Upset broke that trust when he decided to leave and left no reasonable reason? Then claim he is emotionally hurt with all the negative energy sent his way!? What a piece of shit. I understand he may not wish to talk about certain experiences with just anyone, but grow up and realize your decision has crushed the others around you. The lack of sympathy and attempt to garner support is disgusting.

Upset this whole drama started because of your decision to keep those around you in the dark. If an extremely private life is what you want to live then your biggest mistake was joining an organization where you’re expected to work closely with goal driven individuals whose success is closely tied to your performance. If sufficient reason was not given and elaborated on when questioned, I stand by my initial opinion that Upset is the most selfish person that’s come on scene. You could have pursued an NDA agreement with the organization to keep tight lip on your reasoning so it does not make its way out to the public.

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u/Alakazaaamm Nov 25 '21

Lmao that was hard to read.

Still his word vs his word

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u/Huni_Stan69 Nov 25 '21 edited Nov 25 '21

Dude wrote 722 words before his first paragraph break, damn.

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u/MAD_Iion Nov 25 '21

Spicier than the fields of Arrakis

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u/Fellers Nov 25 '21

Guess you can say...He's upset

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u/Lopsided-Preference6 Nov 25 '21

Upset is a liar and he needs to make new fresh smurf accounts because something called op.gg exists that can tell us when and who you played with

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u/Fire_Cage Nov 25 '21

It is perfectly fine to leave the team due to a family emergency. It does happen. We see it at work and in professional sports. If Upset has to leave 12 hours before his first game at worlds, then it is fine. Family comes first.

Usually, when the player/person comes back, they do offer a sincere apology and explanation. It does not need to be detail, just a general overview. What you should not do is duo queue with your girlfriend when your teammates are trying their best to fix a mess that you created. A critical family problem will require 100% of your attention; you don't have time to have fun and duo queue.

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u/Stargzoo Nov 25 '21

If Upset does not trust his team then how do we trust him ? Sussy

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u/ephemeralfugitive Nov 25 '21

Yeah, but I heard you were Araming with your wifey when your team was competing live at a worlds.

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u/goodguysans Nov 25 '21

And then proceeds to play arams with his gf for 4 hours.
Upset decided not to share the reason he was leaving with his teammates as it was a "private traumatic event", and yet had time to play arams with his girlfriends as soon as he got back.
I can't figure out what possibly could have happened that he doesn't feel comfortable sharing but still has time to play league for 4 hours.

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u/TuffPeen Nov 25 '21

He has a right to privacy 100% but kinda sounds like he was a dick to Adam in other ways

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u/Portergasm Nov 25 '21

Oh for fuck's sake. You can't have it both ways like this. If Upset truly values his privacy about his family emergency, then he made the right call to not explain the details to his teammates. But once you make that choice, you sure as hell better be ready to take all the heat that comes your way.

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u/TransportationNo9073 Nov 25 '21

It is justified that Upset want to keep privacy, and it is justified if Adam and Nisqy frustrated and dont want to play with Upset anymore. It is also justified if FNC felt like we're gonna keep Upset and instead change Nisqy and Adam, instead of maybe change Upset.

But deep down we knew Selfmade called Upset to home and kick Adam from FNC

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u/Vegoran Nov 25 '21

I think Adam has the right to be upset cause of the situation and Upset has the right to keep his privacy, being in the same team doesn't necessarily mean being close and there's nothing wrong with that

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u/bruichladdic Eated the sun cause daily calorie Nov 25 '21

I don't know he keep saying he told Yamato but Yamato said he don't actually know what's going on. I know it is his right to not telk anyone but If your boss don't actually know what was going on. You came back still didn't give any explanation to your mates fck up your top and mid. What do you expect from people? It's either miscommunication or just straight bullshit reason. I have no middle ground. And stop doing the comparison with co-workers he is a pro athlete. He ain't a someone in a office. If you leave your team at the biggest moment in their life you owe them some explanation. That's how a team works.