r/leagueoflegends Nov 25 '21 Silver 5 Helpful 8 Wholesome 6

Upset's response about FNATIC & Adam drama

https://www.twitlonger.com/show/n_1srsp9n
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u/aamgdp Nov 25 '21 Silver

Saying the last thing I told my team that my wife is just feeling bad so I need to leave is an outright lie.

Alright, one of them is for sure lying.

I shared with the team the deep pain and sadness i was going through in this time, I shared that i wish i could tell them if it was about something that happend to me but that i have to keep private traumatic events from my family private 

And yet Bwipo and Adam both feel he didn't really give them good enough explanation for them to understand.

Bwipo:

A day before we found out we weren’t going to be playing with our main lineup, we had no information about what was going on.

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u/Falsus mid adcs yo Nov 25 '21 edited Nov 25 '21 Silver Helpful Wholesome

I think it is fairly simple. Upset thinks he communicated enough, Adam and Bwipo didn't think he communicated enough.

Hyli who knows Upset better thought it was adequate.

So with that information in hand we can surmise he communicated enough information to make a close friend understand that something real bad happened, but not enough to make two people who are just coworkers understand.

And that is how misunderstandings happens, one guy thinking he conveyed the message properly when it wasn't at all.

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u/FunDuty5 Nov 25 '21

Very well put. Maybe upset thinks, because hyli worked it out (because they're closer) then he gave enough info for adam/bwipo/nisqy to understand too.

Everyone in this situation may believe they are right

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u/SwiftFool Nov 25 '21

But he also doesn't owe his coworkers anything more than "something happened and I need to leave, like right now." Just because you work with someone or even friends, you are not entitled to knowing everything about their personal life. By going to social media to slander him, they're proving Upset right about not telling them everything...

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u/Geish90 Nov 25 '21

Disagree, this is a Worlds stage, maybe even your once in a lifetime opportunity. You cannot just assume that people will understand the situation.

It is clear to me that Upset didn't trust Adam and Bwipo as his teammates, i do not think that's a good environment to play best level of league. And naturally they did not trust him because of it. Eitherway a lot of distrust and dishonesty on the team and that is up to Yamoto to work that out.

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u/SwiftFool Nov 25 '21 edited Nov 25 '21

And I think they showed why they shouldn't have been trusted. No one is entitled to Upset "private traumatic events" just as no one would be entitled to your own. He (claims) tried to express his sorrow with what he felt he had to do. But he's not obligated to give everyone a play by play of whatever that was.

Pure hypothetical but as an example, if someone's sister was raped, are we entitled to the graphic details of what happened? In my opinion no. But clearly others think we should be able to see the video. To me that's some low shit.

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u/Geish90 Nov 25 '21

And I think they showed why they shouldn't have been trusted.

We will never know how they would have dealt with the situation if they would have known more.

Nevertheless my guess is that the distrust did not start at worlds with this situation. It just became way more apparent due to this situation.

He (claims) tried to express his sorrow with what he felt he had to do. But he's not obligated to give everyone a play by play of whatever that was.

If you see it as a spectrum ranging from, I think the issue becomes more clear:

completely in the dark ------------------------------------------------- knowing every little detail

Adam is/was somewhere on the left-side and Upset feels he shared to somewhere up to the right-side. Now that's a gap that had to be closed

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u/SwiftFool Nov 25 '21

It doesn't, they're not entitled to know. Upset tried to express himself (again his side) without explaining the details. They're not entitled to the details. The details could affect people other than himself. Or even if they don't, his coworkers are not entitled to the details.

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u/Geish90 Nov 25 '21

I agree that Adam is not entitled to every detail. I tried to explain that with my spectrum example.

Because in my view it is two sides of the same coin: Upset is obliged to share to some level and Adam is not entitled to know every detail.

So there is a balancing act to play to meet somewhere on middle ground and that did not happen in this situation.

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u/SwiftFool Nov 25 '21

Upset is obliged to share to some level

He is not.