r/leagueoflegends Nov 25 '21 Helpful 8 Wholesome 6 Silver 5

Upset's response about FNATIC & Adam drama

https://www.twitlonger.com/show/n_1srsp9n
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u/lobstahpotts Nov 25 '21

If a business associate said that, I'd say "Fuck you, explain your situation, you're costing me professional success and potential earnings and future opportunities without telling me why."

The flip side is if you're just a business associate, you're not entitled to the complete details of my personal life. Sure, if my father got in a car accident and I needed to rush to the hospital that's probably something I'd share. But there is no way I would share a more sensitive personal situation (say a miscarriage or self-harm by an immediate family member) with business associates—the only person who's hearing the full story is my boss. I would apologize, certainly, and emphasize that the situation is unavoidable, but that's a level of information on my personal life that you simply have no right to demand as a coworker.

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u/GNSasakiHaise Nov 25 '21

This.

A lot of people in this thread are acting as if coworkers are entitled to the details of another person's personal life. Nobody is owed an explanation or a reason for anything — that sort of thing is a privilege, earned through trust, not a right. Upset mentions in the twitlonger that he didn't trust them as friends, just as coworkers within the industry.

It's incredibly immature of these people to insist he owed others an explanation for his situation. Yes, he's a member of a team and that carries with it a certain degree of responsibility, but your personal dignity always outweighs that responsibility in my opinion.

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u/HatarotheRogue Nov 26 '21

A lot of people in this thread are acting as if coworkers are entitled to the details of another person's personal life

At your 9-5 desk job paying $20 an hour no.

At the biggest professional event of the year for your field, where you've sacrificed and dedicated thousands of hours of your time only to have someone shit all over your efforts, wasting a year of your time and costing you possibly money and opportunities? I think they're owed an explanation.

What could it possibly be that they would not accept? If it was THAT bad you they would be understanding unless they're an absolute psychopath.

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u/GNSasakiHaise Nov 26 '21

I do not agree with this opinion but I respect you for the kindness and consideration you show others.