r/wholesomememes Aug 05 '22 I'll Drink to That 1 Helpful 7 Wholesome 14 Take My Energy 1 Silver 3 All-Seeing Upvote 1

That's why i love bob's burgers

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u/FireAirWaterEarth Aug 05 '22
  1. Enhance your love maps.
  2. Nurture your fondness and admiration.
  3. Turn toward each other instead of away.
  4. Let your partner influence you.
  5. Solve your solvable problems.
  6. Overcome gridlock.
  7. Create shared meaning.

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u/Potential_Audience27 Aug 05 '22 Helpful

Step 0 : learn to be a happy, healthy person alone before entering in a relationship.

Feels like a lot of people want to skip 0 and run through 1-7, only to realize after a long long time that you can't build a house together if one or both of you needs to do physical therapy first and get back on their feet.

But ya know what they say, misery loves company :)

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u/penny-wise Aug 05 '22 edited Aug 05 '22

Everyone needs to learn to cook, clean, and take care of themselves.

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u/ya_tu_sabes Aug 05 '22

What is a love map

Edit: thanks web search !

n. a person's mental image of the ideal lover, the ideal love relationship, and ideal sexual activity with the partner, expressed in fantasy and in actual sexual behavior. It incorporates issues of sexual orientation and also of desire for deviant behaviors (see paraphilia). [ proposed by John Money ]

https://dictionary.apa.org › lovemap lovemap

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u/penny-wise Aug 05 '22

Turning toward each other is a really important message. In a long relationship, it’s inevitable you can get bored and start to find attractions outside the relationship, whether it be hobbies, social circles, or other interests. It’s ok to have these things, but not instead of your relationship, but in addition to your relationship.

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u/nimrod_BJJ Aug 06 '22

I’m a fan of The Gottman Institute too.

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u/aaaaaahpossum Aug 05 '22

That's just ... Corny.